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ex bf moving on too quickly and being a jerk
16/f
my bf (let's call him A) and i broke up a few weeks ago. i knew he had been losing interest for awhile but i didn't know it would be this bad. we were very best friends when we were together and went out for a year and a half. the breakup came out of nowhere.
the past week or so he's been a real jerk to me. he keeps bringing other girls up. i've had such a hard time dealing with this and he's not being considerate of my feelings. he used to care so much about me, about a year ago. i really did love him back then. i still do. but over the past year he's changed. things started going downhill a few months ago. i wish i had the old A back- the one that would care about me, even if it's only as a friend. he's not interested in talking or seeing me at all, i can tell. it really hurts me.
i still care about him, very much so as a friend, but he's bringing up these other girls on purpose i think. it hurts so much. i wish he would still care about me as a friend, so we could see each other and still do fun things and be best friends. i just don't see how he went from my best friend/boyfriend to nothing so quickly. he really does want nothing to do with me.
i'm trying to figure out what i'm asking of all of you. maybe just some advice on how to deal with him being a jerk and how to deal with my own life? i know i can't change his interest level in me but he's being a jerk and i'm not going to let him take advantage of my feelings like that.
thanks.
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Well, there can be a number of reasons for his behavior. One, he could be bringing other girls up in front of you to see how you react & see if you get upset because to a guy that means you still care about them. Two, sometimes when people are together for so long, they start to get sick of eachother. I've been there. Ya'll could have just spent too much time together & he's just wanting to take a break. If I was you, just go on about it like it doesn't bother you. Show him how it feels to not care. He probably still loves you but he just needed a break from you. Let him go out and try to meet new girls. He'll realize that they probably could never be right for him considering he's known you a whole year & probably knows a lot about you :] ♥
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Stay away from him, because it isn't worth it to let him hurt you. Yes, you shouldn't be jealous about any girls he dates [if you even are], but he shouldn't be rubbing his new girls in your face. You're exes for a reason.
Next time he confronts you, tell him you are not going to talk to him until he does a little maturing. But maybe before that you could ask that he not shove his girls in your face, because it's just really rude. If he acts all macho and says "I'll do what I want!", then resort to what I said in the first sentence of this paragraph.
Mainly, just stay away from him until he grows up a little. It isn't worth your time. There are plenty of guys out there who aren't like him.
--Jack
(16/m)
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