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Am I in over my head
I've been on & off with this kyle 4 bout 2 years & i kno that i love him with all my heart but now im not so sure that he feels the same way before everyone could just tell but now its like everything I do is wrong. I can't seem to keep his attention anymore. I've always wanted to spend the rest of my life with him now i'm afraid that isn't goin to happen anymore. Wat should I do? Should I talk to him or just stay away from that subject?
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I have to agree with the previous poster. You're 14 years old, and two years is just a tiny fraction of that. Most people don't know that they want to spend the rest of their life with someone after just two years, and especially not if those years take place in their early teens. Boys are likely to come and go and placing that much emphasis on them is only setting yourself up for dissapointment.
Normally I believe that as soon as problems arise, you need to discuss it with your partner. But in your case, I want to warn you to not ask unless you're prepared to cope with any response he may give. After all, he may not say what you're hoping he will. You may find that he needs more space for a while - if that's the case, give it to him. If you freak out or act irrationally that's only going to drive him away further.
You may even find out that he's losing interest, the way teenagers tend to do. If that happens you really need to be the stronger person and not take it as a personal insult. These things happen. There will be many other opportunities for romance in later years.
Finally, you may find out that it's all misunderstanding, and that he really does want to be with you! Hope for the best but expect the worst. That way, if the result is good, you will be pleasantly suprised and the two of you can move forward together with a renewed and stronger relationship.
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Honey, first of all, take a deep breath. Try to calm down. You might have your hopes up a bit too high. 2 years isn't that long, it is actually kind of short amount of time to the length of times I have seen some of my friends in relationships. So, again, maybe you have your hopes to high. And maybe he has had a lot on his mind. Try talking to Kyle and ask him if there has anything bad happened lately and if he asks why, then just tell him that he looks kinda down. And if there hasn't, wait about 2 weeks or so and ask him if you have done anything wrong. Ask him what you could do to try to spark up the relationship a little more.
Hope I helped,
Ataura
14/f
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