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please help me :(
i really need help. i know you probably hear this everyday but me and my ex broke up about 8 months ago, we dated for a year and a half and before we dated we were best friends for two years. so it is really a hard thing to let him go. and we had a bad bad bad break up, he cheated and i still went back and let him continually use me over and over, having sex with me while having sex with other girls, hes now trying to get back with me again and today i found out hes talking to another girl too. i know i should drop him, but i love him like i really love him and ive tryed so many things to get over him, im not ugly at all i could get another guy very easy its just its not the same and i dont want another guy. im scared because i used to love myself so much but now its like i love him more then i love myself and thats so horrible....i just want him back....
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First off, I'm REALLY sorry it took so long for me to answer. But it's so important that you don't lose yourself, not just over this boy - no matter how important he is, but over anyone. I think you need time with your closest girl friends, but they don't always need to be nights out (I don't know how you are; partier/ nights out kinda girl or what) but even simple girls nights with a good movie and such does wonders. That way you can still talk, and you'll realize that others still love you, no matter what happens, and that there's an infinite number of reasons why you should love yourself.
Next off, as hard at it will be, don't take him back. Even he comes crawling back saying how much he loves you, don't give in & let him win. He hurt you unfairly, and someone who truly loves you (I'm sorry if that sounds brutal, just being honest) would never treat you like that.
Keep in mind the things you have to offer; in friendships (if you're the funny one, the listener, etc.), jobs, relationships in general (family and such not necessarily sexual) and if you think about taking him back, I'll just point out the fact that that alone is not respecting yourself, because chances are that he'll do it again are somewhat up there I hate to say.
And you should be top on your list, so taking him back would be letting him walk all over you, expecting that you'll continually forgive him hurting you.
Good luck, and let me know if you need anything.
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