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ex confusion
Sorry this is so epic!
Last year, my ex (after about 6 months), who I REALLY liked, moved away. We were going to stay together (wasn't THAT far) but he cheated on me and then dumped me. :|
REALLY soon after that I started going out with my current boyfriend. If I'm honest I almost went into it thinking it would be a rebound thing, but it is now 8 months later. I've been really happy the whole time.
Well, on Friday, me and a group of people including my current boyfriend went to this party. My boyfriend got really drunk and the girl who's house it was told me that he was gonna get kicked out if he didn't sort himself out. I told this to him and he blatantly lied to me saying he hadn't even drank since he'd got in - I'd given him drinks!! I got really annoyed and walked away. About five minutes later, I went back to find him - and couldn't anywhere. He'd left, but hadn't told me he was going, and had switched his phone off, and now I had no way to get home as he was going to walk me. I got very upset and started crying - bear in mind I wasn't sober myself!
Then, of all people to come and hug me, it was my ex. I literally hadn't seen him since the day he'd originally left and hadn't expected it at all so I was really thrown. He'd moved back - and said he'd take me home. On the way, we sat and talked for ages, and he went on apologising for what he did and said he'd been feeling awful about it the whole time. We talked for ages about the stuff we have in common that I don't have with my current boyfriend, and then it started gtting v personal- we were holding hands and cuddling up, and then he kissed my forehead. Warning signals started going off so I said that I'd better leave now, so I didn't actually cheat. Before I left he told me that he really missed me and that no girl in his uni compared to me.
Since then I've been feeling really confused. I love my current boyfriend, but over the past couple of days I've had strong feelings for my ex. As I hadn't seen him since I was able to push him out of my mind and I don't think I've ever really got over it. Obviously the right thing to do is stay with my current boyfriend and forget about this, but I think that's easier said than done, especially as I'll be seeing my ex loads over the summer as we live really close. Anyone got any advice?
Thanks!
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Well Hunny,
it seems that your ex does really like you and you need to think to yourself is your current boyfriend always acting like he did or was it just some thing he said at the time of the party coz he had abit to drink?
if your current bf is always like this maybe you should consider your relationship. because i think i could see something really nice between you and you ex but you have to make sure hes telling the truth about being sorry for cheating on you. i think its wrong of you ex to make a move on you knowing you have a boyfriend but maybe he just couldnt help it :/ think about it babe ; )x
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You don't give your age, but I'm assuming you're around 16 or 17?
Anyway- you're only your age- and I'm definitely SURE you're a teenager. My point is this: you have your WHOLE life ahead of you.
If you want to get back together with your ex boyfriend, then go for it. He seems like he's changed, and that seems good. Of course, who knows if he's still capable of cheating? o.0
It's really up to you. But then again- just because you don't have as many things in common with your current boyfriend as with your ex, doesn't mean your ex is a better boyfriend. There are plenty of relationships where the people have ABSOLUTELY nothing in common, yet they are the best matches for each other. Opposites attract more often than you would think.
You have to figure out your priorities. You said you're happy with your boyfriend now- so does staying with him outweigh your possible desire to date your ex again?
Whatever you decide to do- be confident in your choice. Don't let ANYONE tell you that you're wrong. It's YOUR life- not their's. Then again- don't shove people away trying to give advice; listen to what they have to say, and if they are just trying to convince you blindly, then just politely refuse ;]
--Jack
(16/m)
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