This is somewhat long..I'm a girl, 16. I've never been in a relationship.
I met this guy he's a year younger than me and goes to my school. He is totally nice, respectful, and fun. He is somewhat of a nerd..in some people's eyes..He's a bit overweight and has glasses. About a month ago we told each other we liked each other on the phone. Immediately after he hanged up, I got sick and threw up. I don't know why, but I just felt disgusting and that I shouldn't have told him. The next day we decided to meet and discuss it together in the park. He asked to kiss me and I don't know why I did, but I said yes. We only kissed twice on the lips for like half a second, it was nothing crazy. We just sat there for a while, his arm around me blah blah.. Later that night I called him and I told him that when he kissed me..I felt nothing. I broke his heart and he cried. Three weeks later we made up and made a truce. We talked on the phone again, but just as really good friends.
Last night, I told him I still get weird feelings around him..he said he did as well. He told me he wanted to kiss me one last time..I agreed. I told him tho that I my feelings for him are on and off. I would get over him soon. But he was being so nice and so romantic. I felt so bad. I told him today that I don't feel like that anymore and that I was wrong to say I still liked him.
I know I'm a major jerk. I like him sometimes, but then when I try to picture us together, I never see it. He's a great friend I would never want to lose, but I can't stop these occasional feelings. Please help. Thanks in advance
Additional info, added Wednesday June 4 2008, 3:54 pm: By the way..we were good friends BEFORE we even told each other we liked each other. So it's not like we just met and confessed..We met, became friends, and then you know the rest.. Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? jdiiiizle answered Wednesday June 4 2008, 7:15 pm: Ok heres the scoop...your feelings towards him are on and off, because chances are you really do like him, but in the back of your mind worry how other people would think of you if you were with him. By the way you wrote it, you can probably get someone better looking than him, so you wan't to hold yourself at a higher physical standard of guys.
If that is the problem, don't worry about what other people think. I'm a senior in high school now, and i have done that a few times and regret them all. Just don't keep switching on the kid, i feel bad for him just reading that lol [ jdiiiizle's advice column | Ask jdiiiizle A Question ]
ohitscassidy answered Wednesday June 4 2008, 7:08 pm: i say that you aren't a jerk, just confused what you want.. but you need to figure it out soon. Your saying you only like him sometimes? if you only like him sometimes then you probably don't really like him in a relationship type way like you stated so you should stop toying with him and tell him straight up because it seems like your leading him on and thats not good for either of you so i think you should set him straight on what you want and don't go back and say you like him when you don't [ ohitscassidy's advice column | Ask ohitscassidy A Question ]
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