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Relationships
I am so, so sick of everything relating to relationships. All that ever happens to me is: I like a guy, he's really cool, and then he gets a girlfriend. That's happened to me MULTIPLE times now. And it's either that, or the guy isn't as great as he seemed to be. It seems like everyone has SOMEBODY who completely amazes them, except for me. I've liked guys before, but none of them have truly amazed me (meaning, I have never been in love).
I'm not incredibly skinny, but I'm not "fat." I'm not drop-dead gorgeous, but I'm not ugly. I'm just your average sixteen year old girl, really, but unlike the stereotype portrays, I care about more than gossip and the way my hair looks.
I apologize for the length of this question, but I just need to know: Is it even worth trying anymore? Because whenever I find a nice guy, he either doesn't like me, has someone, or just wants to do stuff.
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Welcome to the dilemma of the intelligent girl.
See, guys when theyre younger want sex. Especially those who havent had very much of it. Whats worse, is because of the culture in america, and whats popular, whats "cool and hip", everyone loves the "hook up".
How does this apply to you?
Well, all these guys are looking for what I talked about above. They think thats how relationships are supposed to start. And thats kinda incompatible with someone like you who actually wants more than a physical relationship/one time experience.
It should also be noted, that it doesnt take much to impress the kind of girl who puts out easily in high school. Really, all it takes is enough money for a date or drinks, and the right attitude at the time. Thats why you havent found anyone "amazing". You have higher standards, and most of the guys your age don't feel like bothering because its far easier to find some girl who is utterly without standards and go for her.
The good news is, things get better as you get older. It becomes easier to meet guys who themselves have high standards, because they meet high standards.
In the mean time, consider this. Relationships are NOT about being amazed by the other person. Relationships are about finding someone who has passions for the same things you do, who you like spending time with. And finding someone who's flaws you can put up with and who can put up with yours. So just go spend some time with some people. Theres nothing wrong with going out on dates if you can get them.
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