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im so wracked with guilt
so, my friend, N, and i got together last night and we drank a little. i had 1 and a half beers, and she has two water bottles full of wine. she was drunk off her ass and i was still sober as hell. so we wanted to go on a walk to smoke a few but she got really tired and sick and threw up. then she fell asleep. so i went on a walk alone. (keep in mind this is at like, 12-12:30) and i was on the phone with my boyfriend, M. well M kept saying that he wouldnt mind walking to N's house so we could all hang out and stuff. M lives like 5 mins away, so yeah.
well im walking around alone on the phone and stuff? and so im paranoid. so eventually he convinces me to let him walk up. and in about 10 minutes he and i are smoking in the middle of the street, hanging out and stuff. well, then his brother calls and says that his parents know hes out. so M runs on home. his mom called my mom at 2am and tells her we went on a walk and hung out in the middle of the night. my mom called N's mom and N's mom bitched us out this morning.
i came on home, and surprisingly im not in any trouble at all. i was just warned about what would have happened and stuff. (my parents only know about the walk, they dunno about the smoking and drinking. neither do N's parents or M's parents) N feels like shes about to get bitched out bigtime since i left, and M is grounded for a month. he cant get on the computer, he cant talk on the phone, he cant even sleep in his room! he has to sleep in his MOTHER'S BATHROOM in a beanbag chair!
i feel terrible about all of this! hes in so much trouble and im in NONE and basically the only way im suffering from this is not being able to see M. is this really my fault? what should i do?
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How old are you that his parents aren't allowing him to sleep in his own bedroom? That's just ridiculous!
Anyway, as the person before me stated, all parents have different punishments.
My parents have tried the grounding thing in the past, but they realized that it doesn't really work.
A lot of my friends get grounded for stupid reasons and they resent their parents for it.
Instead of lecturing you on underage drinking and smoking or on being out past curfew and whatnot, I'm going to tell you that you don't have much to feel guilty about.
Now, if the friend whose house you were staying at hadn't done anything wrong, then you should feel guilty. Although she didn't go anywhere, she had been drinking, so she deserved to get punished.
Your boyfriend snuck out of his house. You didn't ask him to, he wanted to. That deserves to get punished.
You snuck out of your friends house and were drinking - that deserves to get punished.
Whether or not you were all punished, and no matter what information your parents do and don't have, each one of you did something wrong.
Yes, some punishments were more severe than others, but everyone should know their parents well enough to be able to know what punishment they will get if caught doing something wrong.
No matter what wrong act was done, nobody should be forced to sleep on a bean bag chair in a bathroom - that's just crazy.
Just chill out - you shouldn't feel guilty.
Kids have to realize that there is always a possibility of getting caught when doing something wrong. Either understand that and be willing to accept responsibility if caught, or don't break the rules.
-- S_C
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You shouldn't feel guilty.
Everyones parents react differently and give different punishments. Some are fair and some aren't, just part of life.
Things will go back to normal soon, as long as you all have learnt from your mistakes, thats all that matters.
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