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-continuation of the "what to do when he lies" question
You say not to get angry, but how can I prevent that? I mean, when I keep telling him nicely he doesn't need to lie and he promises he won't and then he does again. Should I just put on a facade?
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Don't tell him he doesn't need to lie, show him he doesn't need to lie. When you catch him in one of these stupid lies, he most likely knows he's been caught, don't react negatively, act. (Nagging doesn't help.) That is the problem many of us have, we react to a situation instead of acting upon a situation. If these lies are truly unimportant, then why do you react to them? I know honesty is important, I live by the credo of Honesty, Honor, and Loyalty. "Without Honesty there can be no Honor, without Honor there can be no Loyalty." This is not something I have lived my whole life by, I adopted it when I finally left my childhood behind and became a man. (Mid to late 20's.) Help him to leave his childhood behind and become a man. Do not demand he does, encourage him too, becoming a man is something you can lead a boy too, but HE has to take the steps. I will tell you what I did with my son at Christmas. I made him a lined box that held a mock up of the sword Excelsior. On the inside of the lid I mounted a plaque that had the inscription I told you above. The sword appealed to the child, the plaque reminds him to be honest. You don't have to go that far, copy my credo and hang it somewhere where he will see it often, or make up one of your own. Get fancy if you want and put a family shield on it so it's decorative. Guys are pretty simple really, we don't do hints well, we don't want to be treated like a child after we move away from home and we want to be happy in our family life. Best friends don't control each other, we live and learn together as equals. Save being a mother for your children and screw them up. Don't be a mother to one you want to be your man.
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