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I image sex with a man but a woman appears…?
She is my best friend, she is the first person I fell in love with. The first girl crush, I never had a crush before and it is a girl!? That’s when I found out I am bi sexual…I still like men because of the body…but I want her. I explain to her about my sexuality and that I have feelings for her. But she see’s me as a friend and she is just unsure of her sexuality. I cope with the fact that I have to move on but I can’t, I thinking about why I love her, why do I want her and why I can’t get over her. And the answers are because she inspires me, when I pleasure myself I think of men the whole time but then her image pop in my mind. I curse and look at a picture of a man to get her out of my mind. I still think of him but when I am done I think of her, I think about her night and day for 8 years of knowing her. Why do I image having sex with a man but then after I am done I think of her?
I want to get over her!
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Sexuality is just one expression of your humanity. Our various needs and emotions will affect sexual desire and these can change over time to an extent. You may be bisexual..some people believe we are all bisexual to a degree if we admit it. Who knows? There are others who claim falling for a person has no bounds to their gender. You may really love her because she is your best friend and these feelings are warm and safe and feel good. You may be transferring or trying to transfer these feelings to the man with whom you wish was making you feel this way. Often we try to mesh different parts of people to get a complete package. This is unrealistic, and leaves us more disappointed. No one whether man or woman is a complete package. No one actually can complete us. Everyone is imperfect and will disappoint eventually. That is love and life and what it is to be human. Human love can actually become stronger and more meaningful in embracing this truth and accepting weakness. Love her for who she is and accept her for what she is not. She will never be everything to you and that is okay. A man may never be everything to you either. We are meant to have many friends in our lives...maybe many lovers over time. Embrace each for who they are and what they alone offer.
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