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ugh. boys.
15/f
So there's this AMAZING GUY that I like soooo much. Like, I am practically in love with him. I love everything about him: his smile, his laugh, etc. Like EVERYTHING! It drives me crazy how much I like him. Whenever we talk, he looks so interested in everything that I'm saying. And he'll ask me questions to further the conversation, so I know he's really listening to me :) He's so sweet and funny and nice like omg you have no idea! We'll call him A.
Then there's this other not so amazing guy that most days I hate, like completely hate. But sometimes, when we aren't arguing, we have really great conversations. And, I think he sorta understands me and some of the stuff that goes on in my head. And I kinda understand him too. Like our thinking processes. We have this connection you could say, despite all our bickering. We'll call this guy Z.
Anyways, I'm really confused. Z in general just confuses me. I don't know what my feelings are for him. Z just drives me crazy with all his confusing vibes he's sending me. One day, he hates me. Next day, we're like best friends! And then I hate him even more for confusing me because it's making me question my feelings for A!!! Like I keep asking myself which I'd rather go out with but then I'm like, wait no! I hate Z! That's not an option...or is it???? What's going on? Can anybody explain this weird behavior or why I feel this way or even which guy seems better to you? I dunno...
Dumb boys.
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The "boys" here aren't the problem. The problem is your inabillity to decide what your feelings for each of them really are. Ultimately, nobody can decide on this but you, but my advice to you is to not take any action unless you're sure where you stand with both of them.
It's generally okay to be confused and single, but being confused and in a relationship tends to drag other people into problems that they may not nessessarily belong in, and hurt the relationship overall.
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I've been in the exact same position. First, don't let either one get away. A definitely sounds like the boyfriend type, whereas Z is not someone you're going to forget. Z sounds more like the guy bestfriend type. The kind of guy, you'll always fight with, but still love nonetheless. What keeps you together is the unsaid attraction, that really doesn't need to be talked about. But don't be awkward with him, it'll scare him away. I'd go with A because he sounds like someone you're attracted to now, and you really need to follow your instincts. Who makes you happiest? As they say, "Wait for the right guy, but in the meantime, have fun with all the wrong ones." A might not be the wrong one, but you might be surprised by what can change/grow between you and Z in the future. Be patient, things will workout.
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Well, I think you're attracted to Z because he challenges your mind. However, if he frustrates you to no end, you'll probably like a sweeter boy like A. A sounds like he's genially interested in you and sounds mature enough for a relationship whereas Z sounds like he's still in the elementary I-like-you-so-I'm-mean-to-you stage. I'd go with A.
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