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my crush hits on everyoneee.
hey i know you're 19 and all and you probably get 23094832 questions regarding boyfriends & crushes from silly 15-year-old girls but i still need your advice :)
there's this guy a year older than me & he is in the grade above me in high school. well, online, (like facebook / myspace) he hits on a lottaa girls. he always calls them "hot" or jokes around with them, but his page is FULL of posts from other girls. in any case, the good news is that not a lot of them like him, and they only respond to be polite. some don't respond at all. some are really rude. but he STILL tells them those things.
we would talk for a while online, and i always felt like i was just one of his little puppies to be used. but like after he told me i was "beautiful" and ALLL this other stuff, i really started liking him (this was a few months back) and then i forced myself to stop because of how much he used to hit on other girls. but recently, he wanted to hang out with me and he doesn't really hang out with a lot of girls, but we got together (we didn't DO anything) and we didn't talk for like, four or five days after that until really recently.
he acts so chill all the time, and it really really hurts when he talks to other girls & says things to them that he said to me. i would ask him if he says that to everyone everytime he'd give me a compliment, but he denied it and i brushed it off.
but after we hung out, i really started liking him again. he hurts so much though, and he makes me feel SO bipolar (i'm not though.) one day he makes me say, "omggg he's such a sweetheart i like him so much" if he says something really nice, and other days he can ignore me all together or accidentally say something mean and i'd say how stupid i was to have fallen for him.
the thing is, he's not allowed to date. at all. and he told me he's not interested in just hooking up with girls & dropping them. well, no, he doesn't hook up with girls often, but he hits on them a lottt. it's so hurtful.
so i'm asking you. should i hang out with him again sometime or should i just stop this pain & move on? i can easily get over him i just need to convince myself that he's just not the guy that i want to be with. -- even if i could. he just seems so perfect except for the fact that he hits on so many girls, you know? like he is smart, attractive, & can be soo so sweet. no guy has ever been as sweet as he has been to me. there are so many pros and SO MANY cons! it doesn't bother me that he can't date; he doesn't have the greatest reputation so i wouldn't be proud of dating him anyway. i just wanna hook up with him and get to know him better and just spend time with him as he is...
what's your opinion? sorry this is so longgg.
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Hey, don't worry about it, I like it when people come to me for help.
Anyways, about this guy, I'd say you should probably stay away from him. He just seems to be too insincere and he'll probably end up hurting you more in the end. I could just be making assumptions here but it seems like he just enjoys flirting with people and doesn't really care who it's with. That's not the type of person you want to open yourself up to because it'll really get you in the end. If you really want to pursue him though first off you should ask him if he's actually interested. I know it probably seems like a really blunt way of going about things but hey, if you never ask you'll never know right? Also, if he is then you should ask him to stop flirting with everything he can.
Btw, just as a side note, I don't know very many people that refuse to date simply because they're not aloud. Considering most people like to defy their parents anyways, this kinda sounds like his escape plan so as to not actually having to hook up with anyone.
Hope this helped. If there's anything else I'm here.
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