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how do i work things out with him knowing my feelings....
hey well me and my bestest friend just got out of a disagreement and everything is great!! well we kinda dated be4... he is soo sweet to me. but he lives far away and my feelings are just as strong. he just got out of a bad relationship and he is dealing with it... he still has some feelings for her and well you see...she kinda played him in a way...but i care alot about him... we have helped eachother through everything....he has thought about us getting back together but he isnt sure..its not something we can just talk about..knowing that we both know he has feelings for someone else to that he isnt completely over...but is trying to be....he calls me cutie,sweetie,babe,baby(mostly), he says i make him laugh, that i am always open minded with him and dont judge him for his opinions and beliefs, that i understand him, and alot more... well this is kinda a long distance thing and well i talked to him on the phone for the first time....i think i love him more than i know i do...i dream about me and him...all that stuff...how do i deal with these emotions without telling him..i dont want him to know until i know that i can see him and that he really loves me to...hes been the most real and true friend...and i think i am IN love not just loving him...
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I'm assuming that he's a bit to far for you to just drive to him, right? So, for that problem, here's my surgestion: ever heard of Skype? If not, here's the site and see what you think of it:
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It's dead useful for over seas calls and FREE as well (but only if you call other people who've got Skype). Ask your friend to get it and you can talk to each other till your hearts content and it will cost NOTHING!!!
Now, as for your emotions. I think it is best to arrange for you to meet him some way so that you can see how he acts towards you. Now, if you try and do this next step, you'll be taking the biggest risk: ask him how he feels for you. That is the only way that you'll ever find out properly. And then you can tell him what you feel for him.
Before you make a judgement on this, read on.
There is a really good reason for this answer and the following is true. When we surpress our emotions, we run the risk 'burying' those emotions and deny them. I did this recently and it has turned out to be the greatest mistake I ever made. I had these...amazing feelings for this person, but I didn't tell them what i felt. I surpressed them and denyed them, now I don't feel the way I want to feel when I see this particular person, even though I know how I used to feel.
Please, don't make the mistake which I made, otherwise you'll regret it. Trust me, telling somebody what you feel is the best thing which you can do for yourself.
Good luck with the future and don't forget about the Skype,
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hmm. well how far away from you does he live exactly? can your parents drive you to his house every few weekends & visa versa or is that not possible? if he lives further than driving distance, it's going to be very difficult to spark a relationship with him.
circumstance one: he is in driving distance. -- keep talking to him through the internet & phone. stay in touch with him, but don't get obsessive. talk every couple of days so that he doesn't get bored of you. it's better to talk for 10 minutes every 2 days than 20 minutes everyday. the conversations are more interesting. then, try to hang out with him more! maybe every couple of weekends, one of your parents could drop you off at his house, visa versa, or you could meet somewhere near both of your houses, like a restaurant or movie theater. the more you hang out with him, the more comfortable he will become with you, and it'll be easier for him to get over the other girl.
circumstance two: he isn't in driving distance. -- at this point, he still likes his ex, right? so the worst thing you could possibly do is to force him into a new relationship with you, especially since you guys aren't in driving distances of each other. you wouldn't want to purposely put him in an awkward situation, right? be supportive right now. help him through his break-up and then -- it might take a couple weeks -- keep talking to him. my suggestion for this circumstance is to not tell him at all. you'll get over him eventually, and it seems -- from what you've told me -- that a relationship would just not work out if he's not in driving distance. there are other girls that go to his school, other guys going to your school. there's so many temptations, and you wouldn't want either of you to get hurt. appreciate the close friendship you have now. the second you tell him you like him, he'll stop telling you things that he used to tell you back when he didn't know. stay close with him as friends and you will get over him eventually. isn't that better than creating a mega awkward situation and losing him as a friend, and maybe even one day losing him as a boyfriend? it's not worth the urges. you won't like him this much in the few months to come -- keep it to yourself.
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Hey girl. Don't get your hopes up to far. It could probably be that he is hurt and just likes the attention or something.Now another possibiliy is that this breakup made him realise that he has felling for you. So just do what you think is right and follow your instincts. I hope everything works out okay. LOT OF LOVE xoxoxo
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