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to stop therapy or not or change therapist
23f - i was going to therapy for 4 months. i uncovered memories of abuse. i found it really hard to open up. my therapist started to get frustrated with me. i did start going for comfort - i admit it. however i didnt open up mostly because i was scared. i told him a lot considering how closed i am with people. he told me maybe its too soon. i felt like he was pushing me too hard and i felt guilty about it. im just find it really hard to express myself in words - i do it better through writing. anyway i decided to stop going and i told him. he told me that i could find another therapist but maybe i will turn into a permanent client cycle i.e. get to the same point and stop therapy. he said maybe i need to take a break.
i will always have problems with expressing myself. its just me. so what should i do? wait a month and go back to the same therapist - taking into consideration how frustrated i made him? i mean he was happy to see me go. i thought maybe i could write to him how i feel before therapy and then read it...
or should i start therapy all over again with someone new? its just so scary of having to go through that all again.
or should i just stay away until i think i can be mroe open? i dont know if i can be... then again maybe me that this therapist didnt click.
im so confused.
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Find another therapist.
It's not 'starting over', it is moving forward... just with someone else. The same way that going into fifth grade with a new teacher is not starting fourth grade all over.
You've discovered some valuable things about yourself in therapy, but it's obvious that this therapist (sounds like a bit of jackass) is not someone you find suporting you as move forward.
His idea, that you are entering a 'client cycle' is no more fair or supportive then your idea that you will always have 'problems expressing yourself'. These things are negative, and self-destructive... not what therapy is about!
You've moved as far forward with this praticular therapist as you can. Find someone else. Don't look for someone who tells you what you want to hear, just look for someone who does a lot of listening and asks questions, not someone who you feel has passed judgement on you.
Certainly, try harder to make therapy work for you by being open and honest, but do it with someone else.
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