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Parents dont want me dating boyfriend.
Sorry this might be long.
Ok so im 17 years old and my boyfriend is 20 years old. I tried to tell my parents about him before and they didnt approve and told me to break up with him. I told my parents i broke up with him but we continued dating because we both had strong feeling for eachother. I have now become the longest relationship for him and the first person hes said 'i love you' too. I have tried to talk to my mom about having him come over to dinner so she could get to know him but she wasnt having that. My mom says its because hes 20 years old but i know it has something to do with her not trusting anything i do. Im 17 and still a virgin, never smoked anything, never had a drop of alcohol, and clean from drugs. She has no reason not to trust me so it really frustrates me that she doesnt trust me. So i kind of want to know if theres anything i can do to help her understand how i feel about him and how it hurts me to deny that i am dating him. And also if i can get her to understand that she can trust me. Thank you in advance to anyone who takes the time to help me.
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Parents!! huh? lol
This is a tricky situation for any girl, I think what I would do in this case would be try and talk to her maybe arrange for a gilie night in / out and start to tell her what youve written that u havent had sex, drank or smoked and if she listens to this tell her you understand that she may not trust the age difference but that he has bn a gentleman and hasnt tried to get you to do anything you dont want to. Then tell her that you understand shes probably worried incase he does take you down the wrong track however if she would just meet with him and give him a trial then she may see how much of a gr8 guy he is. Now she may still not agree and if she doesn't tell her you understand and then try every once in a while to convince her. If you start arguing - not saying you will - but this will only make her see you as a child as opposed to the young mature woman you are ,so try and I know hard it is not to argue and trust me it will go a whole lot better!!
Good luck hope I helped and I really do wish you and your boyfriend all the luck and happiness.
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First off moms hardly ever trust the men their daughters are dating... Its not that she doesnt trust you she doesnt trust him because hes older than you. Have you tried talking to your dad about this? I think the only real advice I can give you is keep trying to talk to her about it. Tell her that you dont like being dishonest with her but that you love him and are going to stay with him and you would love for her to be apart of that. Before you do any of this though you need to make sure that you really love him and he loves you and that you two are going to be together for a while. if its real than push the matter on her to where she has to listen to you.
I hope all goes great or atleast better than it is now.
Amanda
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