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if you fall in love you just know....right??
But you see (dont judge) this guy is my adopted cousin and he had this thing for me and as time went on i began to fall for him. And one night we stayed up all night in the dark just talking and cuddling and then he began to hold my hand and then he kissed me. But then he left and came back and left--lives in a different state- and i had a dream saying i was in love with him. And i part of me says yes you are but another part says you cant do that hes your legal cousin thats it...but now i dont know what to do. Like i can deny it all but then i think of the night (which i remember perfectly) and its like i dont care. Thats why i cant talk to him on the phone or meet him face to face..he has like a power over me. Its weird. But i thought i could get rid of my feelings so i told him i didnt want him calling me anymore and we were just friends and what happened shouldnt have. But it didnt work and now i regret it and dont know what to do. My mom says that if i contact him it will make it worse. But he was like in love with ME and i dont want to hurt him...HELP!!
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Well, you're not related by blood, which is good. It would not be good to be falling for a blood relative.
I would just tell him that you're feeling things for him that you don't want to feel. It's better to be honest rather than get tangled up in a lie or the art of avoidance, ya know?
Let him know that you wouldn't be comfortable in a relationship with him or anything, and that you just need some time. Tell him what you told me. That when you're with him, he has a sort of 'power' over you, but you want to get rid of these feelings.
This way, you're telling him what he needs to know while (hopefully) not hurting him too much.
It might be hard, I know. I know the feeling of being with somebody and having the feeling that things are just, right. And I know what it's like to want to get rid of those feelings. But if you're uncomfortable being more than friends with your cousin, don't pressure yourself into it.
Trust me, not taking his calls and just telling him to leave you alone as it seems like you're doing is a much worse choice.
Good Luck!
-Laura. (15-f)
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