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how do i get over him?
so me and my boyfriend just broke up around 2 weeks ago. and he asked me back out a couple of times, but i finally said that we should wait for a couple of months so we won't have as many problems as we did before. so then, we waited.. for about like.. 3 days so far, and then we put taken on all of our pages and stuff like that to know that we're single but not interested. and i have a best friend, who's a guy, named matt. and my boyfriend doesn't like it when i hang out with matt and stuff like that, but he didn't say that i couldn't. because i'm single, you know? and last night, matt has a little sister named tiffany who's also my best friend. and i knew both of them my whole life practically. and then we updated my xanga since i haven't updated for a year. and matt typed stuff on it.. and supposedly he teased me and stuff like that. and my boyfriend read it and texted me saying "i don't like it when you hang out with matt when you're at tiffany's house." and then he goes "I don't think i would want to continue on with you anymore.. sorry." and then he said that teasing was flirting, which i'm not sure if it is or not. and then later on he goes, "this is the last straw, i'm deleting you from my life." and he deleted me off of his page and stuff, and then his away message said "practicing with my band. i'm so pumped you wouldn't even know x]" and he texted me saying "your nothing to me now you can go ahead and do whatever the fuck you want. i promise that i'm for reals." and that hurt, because i would want him in my life.. i don't want to be nothing towards him. and i know that time helps me get over him, but i don't want to be depressed about it in the meantime. and hanging out with my friends works at times too, but not all the time.. i hide my sadness.
so please help me? i'm very tired of getting hurt, and i still really like him.
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wow. he got insanely jealous. if you miss him, explain the situation and let him know you still care about him even though he "erased you." another option would to just give him his time and space and not doing anything, but it sounds like you really care about him, and if you do, i wouldn't take that route. try talking to him and letting him know how things actually went. even if you don't wanna date him and you just wanna be his friend, you should still let him know how you feel. who knows, he might stop being an asshole and apologize. hopefully he will. if he doesn't, atleast you tried. and one day he'll probably regret it.
good luck :D
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your ex got jealous. which is expected, since you were with another guy for a night.
put yourself in his shoes, if he was spending the night with his best friend who also had a sister, & him & his friend's sister were updating their xanga together & flirting around, you would be a little upset too.
in some people's eyes, teasing is flirting. & apparently he felt that same way.
if you & your ex were trying to work things out, you should have just been a little more respectful of his feelings.
but also, if you guys were trying to work things out, then you should have talked to him about matt & how you two are ONLY friends & you don't like him that way.
the best advice that i can give you right now, is to send your ex a long, apologetic message letting him know that you only want him & no one else. that you didn't mean to make things seem like flirting & that you are really sorry.
that is, if you are wanting your ex back.
but if you are only wanting to get over him, then find someone else. get out & about, don't let him drag you down.
time heals all wounds. it may not seem that way now, but i promise you that sooner or later everything will be okay.
trust me
:)
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