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Religion in the way
I am a 16 year old female, I will be 17 in June. I have known my boyfriend for over two years and we have always been close even when we weren't dating. It is been four months since we have been officially dating and a month since he has asked me to marry him (I do not want to get married until I am 24 at least, and neither does he but we are now bound to each other). He is a really good guy, he does not smoke, he does not drink, and he does really well in school which is really important to me. He treats me well, and has been my best friend for the two years I have known him. My parents do not like him because he is a Christian and I a Muslim. They think when we have children, he will want to teach our kids his religion, and I will want to teach our kids my religion but the truth is, neither my boyfriend or I care for religion at all. We beleive in God but we do not think much of it. My mom said she will disown me if I marry him and it hurts to know my mom does not accept that I am happy with him.
I don't know what to do, or how to react to this other than just sit here and cry. Any advice?
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I understand that you may really really care about this guy and I know that it is possible to fall that fast for someone but you guys really need to slow down and think about this. Is it worth tearing your family apart at this moment? This is a very common problem and your family may never ever let this marriage happen. I think that you and this boy need to stop and think about it, give the engagement a few years. Wait until you have both grown up and matured before you decide anything. I know how it is, trust me. I planned my whole life around a boy just to find that I really didn't want to be with him that way. At this moment it may seem like he is everything but 2 years from now you may find that you have outgrown each other. But right now live life to the fullest stay with him, just don't think about marriage yet. Tell your family that you guys aren't engaged but that it may happend in the future. This will give them time to get used to it and get to know him. Maybe once they do, things will be better and they will understand how much you care about one another.
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You've only been dating four months- and you're already discussing marraige and a future together?
Take it from me- slow down. No matter how good of a guy he is, you never know what could happen. You're so young, and you've got your whole life ahead of you.
I've been dating my boyfriend three years in June. We have an amazing relationship, but we're seniors in high school- we know that it might not work out. We love each other and are each other's world, but we know things just might not work out in the future, since there's so much ahead.
I'd just not worry about the whole "marriage" thing just yet. I'd take time and let your parents get to know him better, and see how things go from there. (:
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