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me + my new guy.
ok i really dont know what im doing. a bit of background. my ex and i were together from June '06 - November '07. August of '07 i met a new guy at school [A] and started to really like him. he liked me too; nothing ever happened, we just stayed close friends. the ex sexually assualted me thus we broke up. January of this year me and A started talking more; were basically "together" but without the titles. we became official mid-February. we eased into things because he knew mine and my ex's history and my trust issues. Last week he says he loves me for the first time. i had been thinking about saying a couple weeks before that, but i dont know if it was out of habit or if i realized i was really starting to fall for him. soo i said it back and now we say it everyday. fast forward to the last couple of days. i kind of regret [?] saying it. he said that he's liked me since he met me and wants to be mine forever and be with me for the rest of his life yada yada. at first i was flattered, but now im feeling overwhelmed. of course i doubt we'd actually be together forever. i mean duh, but its like he's SO committed so fast. and i dont know what to do now because i stupidly said the same thing back to him. i just want to slowww the role. but i dont want him to think that i dont care about him or dont like him. im honestly starting to question our relationship and if i should even be with him. the past couple of days its just felt like.. i dont know.. that i cant really breathe. which he knows how i felt smothered by my last ex. but i feel so numb to him right now but i dont want to make a mistake and end things with someone who i have liked for a long time and then regret that, because he is an awesome guy that i dont doubt i could grow to love. but i KNOW i dont love him yet, and everything just feels soo fast and all of a sudden. i just dont know how to react now?! and if i were to talk to him, i dont know how/what to say without hurting him. i dont even know what im asking really !?! i just need some help please !
17/f & 18/m
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Sooo I think we're twins. Almost. Let me tell you a story about me and my fiance (yes that's right, fiance, and I too am only 17). So, we started dating about a year and a half ago except he was in juvey (just drugs, nothing bad) and he got out in August. Novemeber came around and I was officially engaged. Think about that. 4 months of actually being with titles with him, and I'm engaged at the age of 17. I've gone through the scares of almost being a mom, almost getting kicked out of my house, him trying to get me to move in with him, and a whole bunch of other stuff and all I could say was, Oh my god, where is my life going?
If you do like this guy as much as you make it out to be, then you SHOULD (and i emphazize SHOULD) be able to talk to him about anything. He can care for you, that's his choice and you need to respect that. As for you, you need to respect him in the fact that you don't lie. It's perfectly normal for you both not to "fall in love" at the exact same time and considering your past, you are expected to feel this sense of disconection from most relationships. Sit him down and talk to him. Don't be scared, or worried, or worried about what he's thinking. If he does love you, he will listen to you. Just tell him how you think things are going really fast and you want to take things in more instead of rushing into words of "I love you" and the thoughts of the rest of your life. If you are going to be together the rest of your life, why rush anything now? There's plenty of time, right? Tell him how you do care for him and you do want to be with him but you want to appreciate your time together more by taking in each and everyday (i know it sounds corny but it's true right?). He should respect that and see that so long as you're not leaving him, you do care for him so he shouldn't be as hurt. I'm sure everything will turn out fine. Just remember you have the rest of your life ahead of you and plenty more guys to tell "I love you too". ... Maybe. No guarentees : ) Good luck hun. Everything happens for a reason and what you have to go through can only make you stronger.
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