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i'm having sex for the first time. But i don't know how to do it! I'm really nervous. Could someone tell me how?? (link)
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Well, I don't know if you're a boy or girl, but because girls worry more about this than boys do for the most part, I'll guess you're a girl. Either way, it will be easier if your partner is more experianced. If not, hey, that's just more fun. Honestly, there is no "right way" to have sex. It's basiclly a game for the imagination. Have fun with it. Don't think about it and just go with the flow. What happens happens. Trust me, after a while, things just kinda of build up and take over themselves. Remember, be safe and have fun!
Peace and Love
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f/14 Don't tell me im too young to have sex. I know i shouldnt have, that was my mistake last year in 2007 there was this boy I started liking in april. well in August, I asked him out and he said he was really sorry but no. but we flirt sooo much its unbeliveable[sp] then a few weeks go by and he ends up sneaking over to my hoouse at like 1:00 am and I snuck him in my bedroom window and things started out normally for us alot of flirting, kissing, but before the night was over with i ended up giving my virginity to him. so a week later I decided I was going to ask him out again and hes like idk let me think about it. two weeks pass. I asked if hes made his mind up yet and he says he still dont know. tehn like a freakin month and a half passes and he still says idk..he never truly gave me a yes or no. I stopped talking to him for a long time. We just recently started talking again. today I seen him kiss one of my good friends and it really hurt me. I dont like him anymore.. but it still hurts... why cant i seem to get over him after he hurt me so badly? (link)
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There will ALWAYS be a spot on your heart for that person that took your virginity to him. And I know you don't want to hear it, but that was your biggest mistake was giving him what it was that he was after. For a lot of guys, that's all that they are really after, no matter how fair that seems. It's going to take a while for you to be able to move on and forget about him but always you will hold a spot for him because he was the first one and no one else can have what he had. Good luck hun and let me know if you need more help.
Peace and Love
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Hi, I'm 15 and a girl. I want to try and get on the contracptive pill but I'd rather not tell my parents it is cos I am sexually active. Is there any medical reasons that can help me get on it? My periods are irregular and I get bad period pains, Could I get put on it to help that? thanks x (link)
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Well yeah why not! That was my excuse to my parents and it worked perfectly fine. Actually, my doctor went as far as to tell my mom all the great health benefits that come along with it (you can try that too). Just make up a strong argument that will show your mom you really thought about it and how it will help you out in the long run.
Peace and Love
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why is it o.k. for guys to have sex with as many partners as they want to but if girls do the same they are considered "ho's" or "sluts"? (link)
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This is a brilliant question and I'm so glad that you asked it. Girls are thought and supposed to have more "class" and "respect" for themselves than guys. It's just something that has stayed the same over the years. Women were to be sheltered in their own lives and be very private, often times even around their husbands. It was a sign of sin around them if they were to go out and "whore" themselves if you will. That though still holds true today. Guys on the other hand find it a boost for their ego the more girls that they can sleep with. Some even go as far as to make games with it. However, because no one has ever said anything against this, the thoughts of "man whores" never really developed and stuck around for hundreds of years. Hope that helped!
Peace and Love
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I am 15 and female. I have noticed my breasts are very very tender atm and have weird lumps in them... Is this normal in growing up? Or should I be worried? What else could cause this?
I am worried about it, help? x (link)
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This my friend, is called puberty. It sucks, and it's scary. These "lumps" are merely the tissue that has yet to spread out and make your breasts grow bigger. With them growing bigger, the muscles also are under pressure which causes the tenderness. It happens to pretty much everyone and is perfectly normal. Don't worry about a thing!
Peace and Love
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I like this guy who is shy when it comes to girls and weve been friends forever but hes like this all of a sudden. He crushed me made me fall to a million pieces and didn’t realize a thing. He comes back from vacation the last week end of spring break what can I do. I need to do something we went so long with nothing. What can I do or say? ANYTHING will help :( in 14 and his 14 bdays in a few days (link)
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Well, if he's shy around you that's a big sign that he likes you. Stay friends with him and try and put your past behind you. What happened happened and people make mistakes. He may realize that he made a big one and likes you too (trust me, boys are stupid this is what they do when they like you at this age). Keep acting like you guys are friends. Don't put any pressure on him by saying anything that could be taken as a sign you like him or hinting that he likes you, that will only make him shier. Stay true to who you are and he will love that itself and open up. Good luck hun, everything will be perfect. I can feel it.
Peace and Love
If you've been dropping hints and he still hasnt been doing anything,just give him time... he's gotta work up the nerve you know!! hah. good luck!
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ok i really dont know what im doing. a bit of background. my ex and i were together from June '06 - November '07. August of '07 i met a new guy at school [A] and started to really like him. he liked me too; nothing ever happened, we just stayed close friends. the ex sexually assualted me thus we broke up. January of this year me and A started talking more; were basically "together" but without the titles. we became official mid-February. we eased into things because he knew mine and my ex's history and my trust issues. Last week he says he loves me for the first time. i had been thinking about saying a couple weeks before that, but i dont know if it was out of habit or if i realized i was really starting to fall for him. soo i said it back and now we say it everyday. fast forward to the last couple of days. i kind of regret [?] saying it. he said that he's liked me since he met me and wants to be mine forever and be with me for the rest of his life yada yada. at first i was flattered, but now im feeling overwhelmed. of course i doubt we'd actually be together forever. i mean duh, but its like he's SO committed so fast. and i dont know what to do now because i stupidly said the same thing back to him. i just want to slowww the role. but i dont want him to think that i dont care about him or dont like him. im honestly starting to question our relationship and if i should even be with him. the past couple of days its just felt like.. i dont know.. that i cant really breathe. which he knows how i felt smothered by my last ex. but i feel so numb to him right now but i dont want to make a mistake and end things with someone who i have liked for a long time and then regret that, because he is an awesome guy that i dont doubt i could grow to love. but i KNOW i dont love him yet, and everything just feels soo fast and all of a sudden. i just dont know how to react now?! and if i were to talk to him, i dont know how/what to say without hurting him. i dont even know what im asking really !?! i just need some help please !
17/f & 18/m (link)
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Sooo I think we're twins. Almost. Let me tell you a story about me and my fiance (yes that's right, fiance, and I too am only 17). So, we started dating about a year and a half ago except he was in juvey (just drugs, nothing bad) and he got out in August. Novemeber came around and I was officially engaged. Think about that. 4 months of actually being with titles with him, and I'm engaged at the age of 17. I've gone through the scares of almost being a mom, almost getting kicked out of my house, him trying to get me to move in with him, and a whole bunch of other stuff and all I could say was, Oh my god, where is my life going?
If you do like this guy as much as you make it out to be, then you SHOULD (and i emphazize SHOULD) be able to talk to him about anything. He can care for you, that's his choice and you need to respect that. As for you, you need to respect him in the fact that you don't lie. It's perfectly normal for you both not to "fall in love" at the exact same time and considering your past, you are expected to feel this sense of disconection from most relationships. Sit him down and talk to him. Don't be scared, or worried, or worried about what he's thinking. If he does love you, he will listen to you. Just tell him how you think things are going really fast and you want to take things in more instead of rushing into words of "I love you" and the thoughts of the rest of your life. If you are going to be together the rest of your life, why rush anything now? There's plenty of time, right? Tell him how you do care for him and you do want to be with him but you want to appreciate your time together more by taking in each and everyday (i know it sounds corny but it's true right?). He should respect that and see that so long as you're not leaving him, you do care for him so he shouldn't be as hurt. I'm sure everything will turn out fine. Just remember you have the rest of your life ahead of you and plenty more guys to tell "I love you too". ... Maybe. No guarentees : ) Good luck hun. Everything happens for a reason and what you have to go through can only make you stronger.
Peace and Love
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I had unprotected sex with my boyfriend on march 9th. He withdrew and didnt cum in me. His precum should be clean bc he did not previously ejaculate and he went to the bathroom beforehand. A few days later we did it again and withdrew that time as well. We did it a third time a few days later and this time i took a Plan B pill the next day just to be safe. I usually get my period about the first of every month. Its usually a regular cycle and it stays the same. I should be getting it in the next 5 days. Im totally worried. It seems like Im having the early symptoms too. Im not sure if im imagining it though. Maybe Im just paying closer attention. The symptoms i have are the sore breasts, frequent urination, headache, nausea, and fatigue. Note: Im also getting over being sick and the nausea is only my stomach feeling queasy. And my stomach hurting has been hurting on and off since before the time we had sex. We havent done it before the 9th and we havent done anything that would get me pregnant before then either. I dont know if Im pregnant or not. Are my chances really high?
Also I dont want any answers saying how stupid we are and lectures. Whats done is done. I just want advice. (link)
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Hey Honey. First of all don't worry or stress. The more you do that, the longer it's going to take for your period to come. I have been in that same spot MANY a times. It is wayyyy to early to be getting any symptomes though so what you're feeling is probbaly you just coming over the sickness. You could be, but because you took plan B after all 3 times he pulled out, I'm pretty sure you're okay. Take your mind off of it because minds tend to make us think things are happening when they really aren't. Don't focus about it (trust me I know it's hard). I would say if you don't get your period by April 10th then go on down to the drug store and buy a test, but honestly, I think you're fine. I hope everything turns out ok!!
Peace and Love
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