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My crush is moving, help me and fast!!
Ok, So I've been crushing on this boy for about a year now. We got pretty close as friends, and he's very religious and all cause his dads a preacher. But I'm not really that religious, I don't care what religion anyone is, that's their choice. But to the point; I finally asked him out this one Tuesday, he told me that he'd get back to me and such, so I waited. Then he finally tells me no that Friday. The next Tuesday that he's moving away. Later I asked him if he would if he didn't have to move away, and he said probably yes. He keeps acting like he likes me and when I ask for a hug he'll give me one. He's extremely kind and I can't help but want to hang around with him as much as possible; which I do. I don't know what to do, I keep falling more and more in love with him. I think I should tell him, but I'm really not sure at all...and I really really really want to go out with him, so I don't know if I should push that issue...I mean, if I did he might say yes. And he's only moving a hour away from my place, but...I can't drive for about 2 more years. And he's only a month and two days older then me..so he's in the same boat. But I'd get to see him 1 time each year till then at least...I don't know what to do...I really want to be his girlfriend and I don't want to lose him because he's became my entire world..I'm so lost and confused..please help, I'm running out of time...I have 2 more months with him.... ='[
and this Friday we were outside for science class and it was freezing to the point are hands were unable to feel. He kept saying how he couldn't feel his hand so I was like "give your hand to me" and I held it and warmed it up. he then said "that helped a little" then a little while later he started complaining about the cold again so I told him to give his hand to me but this time I held it with the sleeve of my jacket and when he let go he's like "that didn't help that much" which is probably true but I don't know.
then today, Easter, he sent me a happy Easter e-mail which he only sent to one other person, his best friend Robert I'm guessing..I don't know the e-mail address.
but yeah, what should I do about this all?
and how could I flirt with him? or convince him to go out with me?
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Im going through nearly the same thing now and I think im going to tell her. The girl I like is moving away in a month. This has happened to me once before, the girl i liked moved to california. Every now and then I regret not saying anything to her, and now it seems im in the same situation. if you say something to him, and you do start to go out, you will probably be hurt after he is gone, but is that pain better than the feeling of emptiness, knowing you could have changed something but didnt?
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I have an idea..perhaps you can try very hard not to push the issue of dating, and be good friends with this young man. Back off a little and take time to develop his trust and once that happens you will know when it is time to ask him out again. If he is moving that does not mean he cannot stay in touch via email and phone. If you are at least friends, there is a very valid reason to see each other in the future. If you push for more and he cuts you off...you may never see him again. Just my thoughts. Best of luck he sounds like a nice young man.
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Sometimes, and I say this with extreme caution, the mature thing to do is to realize that he is moving and there's nothing you can do about that. Sure- you can visit each other- but did you ever think maybe he's helping you out by not dating you?
Look at it this way: Should you date- when will you see each other? Maybe once a month? I'm not one to be cynical, but normally long-distance relationships don't work out for 14 year olds. [I'm assuming you're 14 because you say you're 2 years away from your license]. It would most likely be incredibly tough to maintain the relationship even from just an hour away.
Anyway- I'm sure the only reason he's saying no is because he cares about you and your friendship. You said it yourself: [[Later I asked him if he would if he didn't have to move away, and he said probably yes.]]
THAT is seemingly is ONLY reason. This kid obviously likes you, in my opinion- but sometimes you have to sacrifice what you want for what is inevitable- that which is bound to happen- in this case him moving.
I realize how much you want to date him- and as far as I'm concerned- you've made that pretty clear to him. Trust me- I'm not blaming you for being upset- I've been in your situation before. I actually was dating the girl for about a week and she ended up moving to North Carolina. It was so sudden and devastating =/.
Anyway- I think if you're too pushy with getting him to date you- it gets to be too much. I would stop because I'm sure he knows you're upset- and rubbing that in wouldn't be best for either of you- trust me.
I wish you the best of luck.
P.S. Today is my 2nd year anniversary on this site ;]
--Jack
(16/m)
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you know what the most inteligent thing to do because he cant read minds is to really and truly tell him how you feel because hes moving and when hes gone he'll know how you feel about him .... soooo tell him and you have to think about if he tells you know you hav eto get on with your life i mean do live through life wondering what if because youll never get the answer ..... hope i helped xoxoxo gossipbabe
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