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I need a guy's advice on this one
I am in a bad situation and I need strictly guys help on this one.Okay,so my bff has admitted he is in love with me,like I am in love with him(I am a girl by the way).Well,he told me he doesn't want to risk ruining our friendship by us dating.He told me he doesn't want to hurt me that way.
Well,that isn't really my problem.My major problem is,I found out his cousin has a major crush on me.Well,I like his cousin,too.Mabey not as deeply as I LOVE my bff,but this is a good crush,and his cousin is sincere and sweet,and my age.My bff is two years younger than me(turning 15 in June) and his cousin is only four months older than me.
I want to date his cousin,but I am scared that if I do,considering they are room-mates now,that I'll upset my bff and ruin all chances with him.What should I do?Should I try dating his cousin?Or should I just hold back my feelings and wait the possible years until my bff is ready?
[xxxSimply,Becca]
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this is basically how my situation went,
my bestfriend was in love with me but i just thought he has a small crush. and for the longest time i thought i was in love with him. but anyways, his brother and i had a class together because we were the same age and we started dating, and its been five months since then, and we are still together, and i really love him but sometimes i regret how i ruined my friendship with his brother. we still talk and all, but it just isn't the same as how it use to be because of all the complications. and my boyfriend still gets jealous every now and then that i can tell his brother certain things that i just can't tell him.
now back to you. your situation could end up nothing like mine, i'm just saying, they are similar. if you truly love your bff, then i wouldn't date his cousin. but if you think your love is not strong for your bff, and that your crush on his cousin is a lot stronger, then date him. if he is really your bff you will stay friends, but idk if anything greater than that will ever happen.
just make sure you know how your feelings are before you jump into a relationship with either.
but if you are IN LOVE with your bff, then tell him. but if you arn't... theres no reason why you can't date his cousin.
good luck :D
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Well this is a hard one, a very delicate situation. But really it sounds like you are confused about your feelings for both, you claim to love both but that indicates that you really aren't clear about your feelings. Now sometimes BFF's can transfer emotions such as confusing empathy for love...but if you date his cousin you will cause problems with you and him, him and his cousin, and most likely you and his cousin. I think you should just sit tight and try to figure out all your feelings. I hope this is some help, and my guess is that you will act on impulse and that would make everything worse.
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