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keep relationship exciting, without sex?
my boyfriend and i have been dating three years in june. we're perfectly happy, but sometimes things get a little boring- where we've become so comfortable together, it's like sometimes we forget the "romantic" element of our relationship. there are no more random kisses on the forehead, no cute notes left on my papers or on my away messages, etc. regardless, we're still happy and we do have cute moments, just not as many as we used to.
i just need cute things to do to spark him back up again and give him the hint that i miss these cute little things. we've fought once before that he didn't make me happy and i'm afraid to just blatantly say "i miss our spontaneous cute moments", because then he'll think he's not making me happy. we do not have sex, by the way. so any ideas of how i could drop the hint?
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well.i dont exactlly no what to say ,but me aqnd my boyfriend have tickle wars.he pulls me onto his lap and then we sit there.he puts his arms around me and we just sit there until one of us has to do something.i recently just found out that him and i feel the same way when this happens.there really feels like there is no amount of words to describe that feeling.
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All of my experience tells me that when it comes to romance and most men trying to 'drop the hint' is a damn good way to get yourself disappointed.
Cut through the BS hun and take out your big foam bat of obviousness and give him, and yourself, a few good swats.
Chances are that your aren't the only one missing those 'cute moments'. Remember: Just because they call it chivalry when men show a women respect and admiration, doesn't mean women don’t need to do it too.
Weren’t there things you did for him at the beginning? Weren’t there spontaneous hugs and kisses and hand holding and e-mails and phone calls and little ways to reach out and show someone you care? Are there new ways you can show him this? Getting him his favorite chocolate when he has a test can be a big deal…
You get what you give: To get romance. Give some.
You also get what you ask for: ASK for romance. Be specific and be friendly and positive. Don’t go off whining about how “You never _____ anymore…” instead try “Remember when we used to _______ I really miss that.” Be totally obvious “Hey dude, do that again! I liked that.”
Dropping hints is never very effective communication or motivation for change. You are going to have to be clearer with him and with yourself before you get anywhere with this.
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