|
confused... opinions appreciated
so long story , i broke up with my boyfriend in april of last year. it was one of those addicting relationships wher we talked non-stop and planned our wedding and what we were going to name our kids. needless to say it was kinda unhealthy so i broke it off.
and then summer was good and he got a gf and i flirted with people and so maybe we cought ourselves staring at eachother every once and a while but it wasnt so bad.
and then all this year i dont know why, but i always knew where he was. its not like i sat and memorized his schedule but i knew where he was all the time. and so i wasnt always looking for him but i guess i always found him.
and now, hes calling me again and being all flirty and i dont know what to do.
im pretty sure hes not playing games because my friend is his best friend and she says hes pretty serous about this. which makes it even more complicated!
well last night he was all "remember how we were going to fly to the moon for our wedding, well do you think we could still do that?" and i was just like "uhhh..." and i guess he took that as a bad sign.but i really didnt see that coming.
and now he wants to talk about it, and i dont know what to say. i just want us both to move on. with our self esteems still intact.
i cant tell him i dont like him at all and that i never thought about him because its a lie.
and i cant get back together with him because its so suffocating.
what to do?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Let him know that you cant stop thinking about him. Let him know how you feel about just being friends and moving on.
i personally think that if it was meant to be you would later on find each other with love still in mind.
Just because you can't stop thinking about where he is and what he is doing does not make it love (affection is more like it, and of course you'll feel that way. He's your ex).
and if you was to want to get back him than maybe you should talk to him about being to clingy with stuff. i mean, (are you in high school, or school) maybe you arent ready for marriage and kids. I never plan for the future. i live for today. who knows you guys could come up with wedding plans today and later find those plans with someone totally different.
i seriously hope i helped you out :)
]
Why not just tell him what you told us?
The relationship was too serious and it suffocated you. It's nothing personal against him, things were just moving to fast. Tell him you don't want to fall back into that cycle again, so a relationship with him right now is just not an option.
Assure him there's no reason you can't remain friends, but he has to stop coming on to you like that. You mean him no harm, and he should realize that.
You need to be upfront and honest with him or else he's not going to leave you alone. He's a big boy. He'll understand and he'll get over it.
]
More Questions: |