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Picking between what I want and my conscience.
14/F.
My boyfriend and I broke up about a month and a half ago. During the entire time however, I had a small little kids crush in a way on a guy named Josh. He is incredibly good looking and a really sweet guy, I could get lost in his eyes. I never thought much of my crush because I just assumed he was in grade 12 because he was dating a grade 12 earlier. It turns out he is only 15 years old. We are both single at the moment but he really likes this girl who is currently in Italy on a family trip. She wont be back for another month and a half. The problem is im starting to like him more and more but she also likes him back and I dont want to ruin anything. I talk to Josh alot and out of all his girl friends, im the only one he really trusts. Lately, he's been hitting on me alot (like he always did but now hes being more suggestive) and I got to admit I like it. Im having a few friends over on the weekend and he wanted to come to so I said he could.
The other night we were talking and asking alot of questions and at one point he asked me if Id reject him if he tried to kiss me this weekend. I said probably not. Now he kind of always says little things now and again about him possibly making out with me. The thing is I really want to but my conscience kind of says otherwise, because he still likes this other girl, she likes him alot and It just doesnt seem right if we hook up (just kissing) to her. He said that they both agreed it would be ok for them to make out with other people while theyre single.
My question is, do you guys think I should let him kiss me? I know it seems like im making a big deal out of nothing but I really dont want to start trouble, as much as I want to make out with him. Would that make me "whoreish" in a way?
Thanks Alot for your opinions
P.S. Making out just means french kissing
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i know exactly what your goin through because im kind of going through the same thing
But my advise to you is do what feels right..and if kissing him makes you feel right then go ahead and do it they dont go out so she has nothing to do with yall..and since they agreed that it would be ok to makeout with other people then there is no problem...so go for it if you really want him.
Good Luck :)
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The truth is that NO ONE, not even the people happily married and committed for fifty years, is never attracted to another person.
We all have crushes. Most of us feel attraction for people who are taken or when we ourselves are taken.
It's okay.
This girl has no claim on him that you are aware of, which means, as you both like him and he likes both of you, you are on perfectly equal footing.
If you are really uncomfortable with this, ask him about it. Say something like "I really like you, but I thought you had something going on with So-and-so and I don't want to mess that up."
If you want more then just to 'hook up' with him, it might not be a bad idea to mention that too, so he realizes it would be wrong to just fool around with you and then be with her when she comes back.
There is nothing whoreish about making out with someone who might, sort of, have a crush on someone else, but you should ALWAYS be honest with your crush, even when it feels awkward. It will save you heart ache later on.
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