Question Posted Wednesday February 27 2008, 8:50 pm
Lately I've been feeling pretty down. My mom is a nurse and thinks I have anxiety problems and depression. I've seen a psychologist, but that didn't really work, and she recommended I see someone else because I wasn't opening up to her enough.
I was talking to my boyfriend about it the other night, and he said seeing me this upset has made him upset too. He said the last time he had ever felt as upset as he does when he sees me like that was 3 years ago. And then he told me that he cut himself once. I cannot comprehend that. I know people who cut, and adore one of them (I hope I become good friends with her soon, and I hope I can make some sort of difference in her life to make her happier), but I knew she cut before I met her.
I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months, known him for almost 2 years. When he told me that I was just absolutely shocked. He said he doesn't do it anymore, that he only did it one time (but made 4 cuts) and then realized it made him feel worse and that there were too many good things to be that upset. I can't believe that he ever did that, it's so hard for me to believe that it's making me sick. I think about it all the time and the images I get in my head are so disturbing... I know it's in the past, but it really makes me upset.
What can I do? I can't stop thinking about this. =[
WITHOUTaDOUBT answered Wednesday February 27 2008, 9:41 pm: Also, he keeps trying to downplay it as if it wasn't a big deal. He says what I'm feeling like is a lot worse than how he felt. And he said he did it mostly if not completely for attention, but no one noticed, and that now he would never do it because he has me and his friends to go to. I'm the only one who knows right now though.
I could never ever imagine that he did that, the thought would never have crossed my mind... I can hardly decipher my feelings right now. [ WITHOUTaDOUBT's advice column | Ask WITHOUTaDOUBT A Question ]
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