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hes got me going nuts! i cant understand anything anymore
15/f
I have feelings for this senior, at one time I thought he might like me too. (ie..We never talked and he threw a paperball at me..then he picked me for his group and sat right next to me, he had his arm touching me the whole time and everytime he said something to me he looked me in the eyes. And he would nudge me with his shoulder or his leg. And he was teasing me and laughing with me. Note there were two other girls in the group. One sitting on the other side of him and the other in front of him.) But anyways i thought he might have had feelings for me too and you can see why. But then he started to kinda drift off and he wasnt talking to me as much. (He had a girlfriend the whole time, but when this "drifting" began to happen i heard they had broke up) And he would occasionally talk to me. One day he was sitting in the corner alone staring at the floor and i said "what is wrong with you cj?" and he started to mumble under his breath, and i said "yeah i heard nothing you said" and he began to smile and said good you werent supposed to. And i said ok then and began to smile and laugh back. But then i heard that they never did break up. And everyone is telling me i should go for it and ignore the fact that he has a girlfriend. But I couldnt do that. I would hate to think how i would feel if that happened to me. I am not the kind to steal a guy from another girl, whether i like her or not, i just dont feel its right. But i really would like to get to know cj if you know what i mean. But he has college and basketball, and the girlfriend. My friend said that we should write a note between each other talking about how i feel about him and his girlfriend and what she thinks as well (my friend) then stick it in my binder and when he checks it for our class then he will see it and read it (because everyone loves to read notes). (mind you this note would be between me and my friend talking about me and how i have a thing for him). What should I do?? I know he is a senior and everyone says seniors want freshman for their body. But we grew up in a small community and it just isnt like that with most of us. If that is true it is the senior girls and freshman boys.
What should I do about all of this
PS his girlfriend is a cheerleader and im not, i know that most jocks like cheerleaders, but i have this feeling that there is something there between us...And the other day we was sitting at the computer at school and he was looking up car parts and he seemed really concentrated and i was bored and all i could think to say was "whatcha doing?" (he would reply something) and "im sorry but im really bored" (and he replyed its ok)
sometimes i feel like he is shutting me out...but i saw him and his girlfriend in the hallway and he looked at me then looked at her real quick.
sorry it is so long!!
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I think that it's kind of obvious that you've got feelings for this guy.
I always hate the fact that guys tend to go for the cheerleaders, just because they're fitter or what ever when there are other girls out there who love that one guy to peices.
Well, you could ask him as to why he was sending out signals to you (i won't say 'flirting' since it really doesn't seem to fit this question) when he knows that he's got a girlfriend of his own. He can't raise a girl's hopes only to shatter them when he goes back to his girlfriend. Tell him of the feelings which you've got for him and see how he responds.
By the way, you made the right choice not to go after him when he's still got his girlfriend. Some others on this site would so well done for not following through with your friends advice.
But personally? I think that he got a wake up call, telling him that it's wrong for him to send out signals to another girl when he's got his own girlfriend. This may or may not be true but just keep it in mind. It could also be that he can't make up his mind between the two of you, but this is (once again) a speculation, not fact.
As friends, you can know CJ just as well as if you were in a relationship with him. Just don't let your feelings get in the way.
I hope this helped,
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