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Followup on your response.
Ok, so I read your response, I liked it the most so I'm still wondering, should I ask her to let me know when shes ready? I'm comfortable talking about it but afraid of her response being negative or just no real answer, and if i did bring it up what should i start with and what should i say, i think I know, but at the same time I want to be sure that what I think is right. Thats why just asking her to let me know when shes ready seems like the best way to go. Shes told me many times to not ask if something feels good and that she'll tell me if she doesnt want me to do it. Or what if i just took a different advice columns opinion and, start by kissing then rubbing the thigh then rubbing the chest then ask if she wants me to go lower and response depending go from there.
Any advice would be great and I thank you for it.
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
A good way to start would be to say something like this. Feel free to fill in the blanks or whatever this is just my suggestion.
"I really like being with you. When we're together, I feel [BLANK]. And it is because I feel this way, and because I respect you, that I am bringing this up. I think that since we're starting to get more and more intimate, we should talk about things that both of us want. I want you to tell me because I don't want to go to far and make you feel uncomfortable. Do you agree?"
I don't think that "just going with it" when you two are hooking up is a good idea. It should all just happen with having to stop and be like "Is it okay if I go do this?"
If you talk with her about it first, I promise it will be much more enjoyable because you won't have this constant doubt it your head that you're going too far.
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