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I'm confused
Ever since my parents got divorced i havent really been able to emotionally feel anything like when me & my boyfriend would break up i would be fine & laughin bout it in 5 minutes but ever since ive started talkin to this guy that i go to school w/ he has made me soooooo happy & when he says something really sweet to me i almost start cryin & i cant tell u the last time i cried i think i might love him or is it just somethin im goin through but im not sure
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It sounds like you still have a load of emotional issues to work out with your parents' divorce.
Divorce takes a huge toll on every person involved whether it be the parents themselves, the kids, the grandparents, siblings of the divorcing parents, friends who are there for the divorcing parents... it is tough all the way around.
You said "I can't tell you the last time I cried". That is significant. Now mind you, I haven't been given a huge amount of history here but it sounds to me as though you maybe shut down emotionally due to your parent's divorce so you wouldn't have to "be hurt" any more than you already had been. If your parent's divorce was a while ago; a few months ago, a year or two ago... you may just finally be "feeling" again. Your shock of it all may finally be shedding and you are feeling emotions that you have tried to block.
I think it is good to have healthy relationships with your friends, including boys. If he makes you laugh, great. If he makes you cry...(not in a bad/nasty way) thats good too. You need to FINALLY get some of this out. I just wouldn't assume that you are "in love" with him just because you are feeling all these different emotions that you haven't felt in "so long". Divorce, believe it or not, absolutely can cause PTS, or post traumatic stress syndrome. Again, I don't know much of your situation, but you could have been suffering from this. Especially if you did not receive any counseling after the divorce you still have a lot of "stuff" to work though, and will have for years to come. I am pushing 30. My parents divorced when I was 11. There are still issues and I not only have received counseling but am a divorce counselor myself and am studing to be a family therapist! So you have a lot of emotional baggage to work out.
Enjoy your time with this guy. Just don't take things too far until you understand yourself better. You deserve to figure out YOU before jumping into something with someone else.
Best of luck.
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