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Boyfriend.... i dont know anymore
Ok my boyfriend and I havent been going out very long but we liked eachother and knew we did for about a month and a half before he asked me out. Now I still care about him quite a bit and I like him but im really confused. I know this sounds confusing but I dont really know if im happy with him. With my last boyfriend I was really happy, I was walking around smiling every single day now its like.. im not super excited to see him and im not trying hard to, and when he leaves like after he comes over its no big deal to me. When im with him of course i care about him quite a bit but it kind of seems a bit.. empty.
What I mean is if you have ever heard the song Together by Avril Lavigne thats kind of how i feel sometimes. I dont know what to do since I still care about him and we havent been going out long so I dont want people to think im jsut going from guy to guy, also if we do break up theres a dance next thursday he wants me to go to, and then the 14th is Valentines Day so i dont want to do it at a really bad time. I dont know if I should give it more time or not.
Hes really sweet and he cares about me alot, and is always trying to impress me, and hes whipped. Hes a bit perverted which gets me mad but I guess its expected. Any ideas what I should do? Im sorry this is so long but I really dont know.
Thanks for reading
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don't let hte avril lavigne song affect you too much. because ive done this too, when you start thinking about something and one song just seems to explain it all, you convince yourself that what is happening is exactly what is happening in the song. and dont let valentines day affect you either. i had this exact same experience almost, and i broke up with him on christmas eve. its not cold, its almost more fair. why waste your time or his if youre not truly happy? life is too short. just give it a little thought and if you think its worth it, stick with it. if not, tell him youre unsure about the relationship and move on. if its meant to be you can come back to it
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I'm not in your shoes, but here's my personal viewpoint. You cannot try hard to feel happy, it's something that happens naturally. It sounds almost like you are trying to force yourself to feel something. If you do not feel happy (realistically happy, not necessarily totally elated like a fairytale), then only you can ask yourself deep down what could be causing it. And also, do not have unrealistic expectations. You aren't going to feel lovey-dovey, dancing in the clouds every time you see him. If you do, great. But at the very least, you should be comfortable, at ease, and pretty happy around him.
Your boyfriend now can be a great guy, but maybe he is not a good match for you. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. A good relationship shouldn't feel "empty" (as you mentioned). Maybe he just isn't a good match for you.
Listen, you just need to be honest with him. I know from experience that the more you keep your feelings to yourself, the more they fester within you- this is not constructive. Let him know how you feel, and let him explain himself too. Don't worry about what people think of you...it's their problem, not yours. All I can tell you is to be honest and open with him..who knows, maybe that in itself will strengthen the relationship. But keep an ounce of reality at hand at all times.
Valentine's Day is around the corner, but you know what, why celebrate with someone you aren't completely into? I'm not telling you to definitely call it off, but do not stick around simply because V Day is coming. If you feel it's worth it, then work at it. Talk to him, be honest, give it a shot. BUT ONLY if you think that's the right thing. If you have a feeling that the relationship isn't going anywhere, or that it has not potential AT ALL, then you probably already know what you should do.
** To add to all the above, try not to compare this relationship with your last, or this boyfriend with your previous bf. Two different people and situations deserve some distinction.
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