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i screwed up and now i'm paying
i went out with a guy over 3yrs ago for about 3wks and i broke up with him cos i really thot i didnt like him, even tho he was the only guy i've eva felt sad and happy when we broke up. Ever since then, he's always been on my mind but i kept telling myself that i know i'll finally forget him considering that 'i dont like him'. Things went on wiv my life and i even dated a few guys afterwards but i still always thot of him. After about a year, i realised he was proper stuck in my head and i actually like him a lot as i even compared every guy to him. I've been telling myself i'll get over him and i still haven't and now he has a gf.... i've never cried so much in my life or felt physical pain. I dont think i'm in love with him and i know myself that i'm not a good gf and i want him to be happy even tho its never going to be with me. Pls how do i get over him cos i've tried everything possible?
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Here's a thought. Did you ever think that maybe you're in love with your friendship with this guy? It's possible. I love a lot of guys right now, but im not IN love with them. It's also possible that you're hanging onto him because he was you're first something. You're first boyfriend, you're first childhood love (which is real), or maybe just you're first big decision. Try rebuilding your friendship first. That needs to be the most solid foundation between the two of you.
If it's to hard to let him go completely, try doing it in small steps. Find a guy who has the same qualities, compassion, or something like that in common with the guy that you like. Sometimes the best thing to do is be in love with a friendship. I can say from experience, when you find the guy that you truly love, you will begin to see the fine line between falling in love with friendship, and falling in love.
Remember, getting over him probably won't happen. I still can't get over my first true love. But it's easier knowing that now, it's just a sweet memory. Hope this helps!
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