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Irritated..
I have a boyfriend of 9 months. We spend alot of time together and what not. Good or bad, I don't know. But I think it may cause why I sometimes get irritated with him easily. I don't mean to be rude or snap at him, it just happens. I don't know why I do, do that though. It bothers me. Also, when I'm at lunch or whatever, people say something and I quickly react to it. I don't take peoples shit basically, but I stand behind what I believe.Like.. I only held a couple grudges on people and my friend doesn't think I should and it's funny how she forgave an old friend who punched her in the face, but I didn't forgive her for doing that and just be a bad friend in general. Yeah, that could be a stupid reason , but she does everything for a attention and what not, whatever she slapped me in 8th grade and I took it because she was suppose to be my bestfriend... but back to the point. What may be causing this and how should I fix it?
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a lot of people get irritated really easy, this is normal. there isn't a whole lot you can do to stop yourself from getting irritated at people, you just have to try to conrol your emotions and not react. try counting to ten, or going and getting involved in an activity that will calm you down. if it's possible, remove yourself from the situation. as for your boyfriend, when you've been dating someone for awhile it is quite common to get annoyed at them for little things. if it's something that he does that annoys you and he doesn't realize it, you could mention to him how you feel and ask him if he would mind trying to discontinue doing it. if it's just him in general, random little things, remind yourself of everything you do like about him to help you forget about the things you don't. and when you slip up and get mad at him just apologize. everyone makes mistakes. as long as he hears a sincere apology he should understand. good luck.
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Your friends are trying to control you and tell you what to do and getting abused [slapped] by your supposed best friend is not okay. This is why you might be striking back with words and not physical actions. I think that you are also getting fed up with the stress and your boyfriend is probably not the cause of any of your irritation, it is pretty much your friends. And it is perfectly fine [and very good] to stand up for what you believe in, and if your friends don't agree or support you in your beliefs, let them do what they want. You need to relax and maybe make other friends, friends that won't slap you or try to influence you to do something you don't want to do.
Try to escape the stress and drama, if your friend wants to befriend the person who punched her, she is being the bigger person, but you do what you want and your irritation will go away if you forget about the stress of school, relationships, friendships, homework, turmoil...it will go away. Unwind, listen to some music or take a few deep breaths. Everything is okay and all you can do is calm down, your hormones are probably just mixing you all up :]
Feel better and good luck.
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