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I have a boyfriend whom I like. I heard from his friend that he might break up with me. Should I break up with him first? I don't know what to do, I really like him, but if her MIGHT break up with me, should I just do it for him?
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Your boyfriend's friend might be closer to him than you, and could have heard something in confidence that he's passing on to you. That's certainly what you're worried about.
If you are not feeling any of these vibes from your boyfriend, carefully examine his behavior in retrospect. How was he when you first got together? Shy? Happy? Smiling? Energetic? Helpful? Now think about how he's been lately. If there's a huge difference (for example, if he's now withdrawn, quiet, avoiding you, full of excuses, seems unwilling, etc.), then the friend is probably right.
It's a shame when a boyfriend isn't close enough to admit feelings to his girl, but it happens. If that friend is trusted, he could be right.
Don't break up with him in a finalized way, but put the option out there gently, saying something like "I was wondering if it's time that we separate or see other people". If he seems relieved or interested, you can break up without hurting too many feelings, I hope.
Don't tell him that his friend broke confidence and told you. That won't help matters.
Handle everything with grace and don't lose your temper. It's all right to be sad, but don't go off the deep end. You will gain respect from people depending on how well you handle the situation.
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