being fingered and bleeding when I'm not a virgin.
Question Posted Tuesday May 19 2009, 6:49 pm
18f ...I first had sex with a guy when I was 17 and when we had sex for the first time I didnt bleed and other times after that. Then with a new guy I had sex with him and there was blood on the condom, and i was asked if i was on my peroid, which i wasnt so thought nothing of it. The next day i saw no blood and was with the guy again were he fingered me and there was blood on his hands and he freaked. but when i got home and cleaned myself up I realized that i wasnt on my peroid. So were is the blood coming from and why? Is it that this second guy actually popped my cherry, and if so what's the best way to talk to him about it?
The hymen (or "cherry" as some younger generations refer to it as) usually has a small hole in it as it is. A hymen is made of very thin tissue and it is fairly easy to tear or stretch. It's located at the entrance to the vagina so, actually, it isn't inside of the vagina. The hole is there to allow menstrual blood to escape the body and is usually too small to accommodate an entire penis to enter the vagina without stretching/tearing. Sometimes the hymen is so elastic that it can permit a penis to fit into it. It usually loses this elasticity with age. It is also possible that it was not completely torn from previous sexual experiences and you tore a bit more recently.
There is also the possibility that you were not lubricated well enough. Many women experience this problem if they do not take time to properly prepare for sexual intercourse, which is why foreplay is usually important for women. If things are not lubricated enough, friction (especially friction of fingernails) can cause the walls to tear and bleed a little.
Chlamydia and gonorrhea both are very easily (and commonly) transmitted and cause bleeding after/during sexual intercourse. It is possible that your past partners have not been completely truthful about their past sexual experiences and have picked up an STD/STI previously. Younger people tend to feel the need to lie about previous partners so please do not completely dismiss the possibility.
Vaginal yeast infections and/or bacterial infections can cause bleeding after/during sex. In these cases, you honestly need to seek a health care provider so that you do not risk major damage to your reproductive areas. If you suspect you may be experiencing either (some syptoms include itching and burning, burning while urinating, cottage-cheese like discharge) then please see a doctor as soon as you can.
Here is a link that lists the most common reasons as to why women experience bleeding after sexual activities, it may be very helpful for you to educate yourself on the possibilities for the future:
I hope I've helped you with finding out the cause of your bleeding. Please make a doctor's appointment to ensure you're in good health. It's better to be extra safe than extra sorry.
P.S. STDs can be transmitted through fingering, handjobs, and even oral sex in addition to intercourse. No sexual activity is "safe" from these nasty diseases. [ Peeps's advice column | Ask Peeps A Question ]
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