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Who is right or wrong
My name is Charles, me and Lynn have been together for One and a half years. Since we have been together she has been like my head shrink instead of a girlfriend to me. The advice is good but after a while it became as if she has to be in control. Always her view never mine. When I bring things to her attention, she gets very defensive. Then she will start this shrink session that goes on for hours. Anyway, the relationship has been gong down hill since. One day I told her that I wanted to find my mother via the internet. While searching for people with my last name, I happen to run across a woman on the internet that is interested in me. We correspond for about 2 weeks. By this time im fed up with arguing with Lynn. She seemed like someone I could like. Well turns out, Lynn finds out about this through searching my email account. I told her the truth that I liked her but dont feel it would be a relationship. The woman was a half a world away from me. Every day after that Lynn has never forgiven me for that. She calls it Emotional Cheating, I agree that it was and I promised that I would never do that again. Well she never did forgive me, because months later she had sex with a man and got pregnant by him. She feels justified in what she did. I didnt find this out till Christmas Day 2007. She said telling me on that day would be my Christmas gift. And that we were even. Since that day of being dishonest with her, I have been trying to make things right. Then she drops the bomb on me almost a year later. Who is right here, What should I do? I feel like I need to move on with my life. She said that the baby could possibly be mine, and that I should accept it weather or nor it mine........
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Let's pray this is not your child...she is a manipulative woman and will use this child to try to control whomever she can. This is beyond the normal who is right or wrong and at this point, the only thing to do is be peaceful with her for the sake that she may be carrying your child. On the other hand...IF we were to give the situation and her the benefit of our big doubt, then we could venture to hope that even though Lynn is emotionally needy and manipulative, she may have some really good characteristics and could dramatically improve given love and care...preferrably therapy. Find out if the kid is yours, and try to not upset her..this goes for any pregnant person. As far as you being with Lynn in the future...it is very unlikely that either of you are entirely whole and healthy...not that anyone is, but when you cannot sustain a good relationship with someone over such a short time as a year or two...it does not look good. Two halves never ever make a whole when we are talking about people. Both of you need to stop using each other to fulfill what you cannot give yourselves first. If you can get into therapy do it for yourself...not to save this relationship, but to save yourself from repeating mistakes in any relationship henceforth. Get back to me as you progress and the situation changes.
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