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I'm in an interesting situation with someone. We've been talking to each other for a month or so about being in a relationship, but not really. It is extremely confusing so try to follow along the best you can lol. I'm in love with this guy. I've told him so, he knows how I feel, the whole deal. He told me he feels the same, always calls saying he loves me & what not & basically made his feelings pretty clear, even though I innitiated the feelings first & started flirting with him first. Recently, he has been flirting back & calling me at all hours telling me he loves me & what not. Things have been going pretty well, but we haven't talked about a relationship exactly. Were going with the flow. The problem is, I would like a relationship except I live in CA & he lives in Washington. Obviously, that is quite a distance & we can't see each other that often, especially since were both going to school, but were both adults. Also, I'm afraid he may have feelings for somebody else, even though there isn't a specific girl I know of. Since he's a guy, I assume he probably does, maybe someone that must go to his school or is in his classes. He recently went to a party & "got naked but didn't do anything" with girls there & how it was all jokes. That was a huge NO in my book & I wanted to pull away, but didn't. He is not my boyfriend, so he basically has the freedom to do whatever he wants. I was a bit mad at first, but he was sweet talking me again & didn't have the power to stop it & fell for it. He always always says sweet things & I can't deny them. My feelings are a bit too strong to just pull away. Does anyone have any thoughts or opinions on this situation?? Should I continue with this & wait & see if a relationship can start?? Or do you think his feelings are unreal?? He always tells me he loves me, but some things he does may seem like he feels otherwise. thanks.
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oh-kay. honestly, i think that you obviously really like this guy. if he says he has feelings back for you, he probably does. if you really care about this guy and you really don't like seeing him do this around other girls or your nervous that he doesn't really "love" you, then you might wanna just talk to him. call him one night and make sure that he has a little while to talk and just have a heart to heart with him. tell him how you feel and see how he feels. if he feels like he really likes you the same way you like him, your probably ready to start a relationship. if you do, then you might wanna consider putting away some weekends and no-so-big holidays to just drive up to washington and visit him. i really hope this helps.
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What I see from this is that he might find it easy to say he loves you and all that because you're so far away, it's almost like an easy thing on the side because he doesn't have to work at it as much as a close relationship. And since you aren't officially boyfriend/girlfriend, that leaves an even bigger leeway for him to do what he wants. If you intend on leaving the relationship at "going with the flow," you can't entitle yourself to get angry at most things he does. People get naked at college parties sometimes, it just happens. I think that you would have to trust him, depending on your history with honesty. If you're getting worried about his behaviour, I would definetly talk with him about your relationship, or lack thereof. It's important to not have blurry understandings of a relationship because you could both end up very confused and/or hurt. I hope I helped you & good luck!!
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