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depressed...
I'm very depressed and don't know what to do about it. I don't want my depression to go to far and me do something I shouldn't do. I know I'm depressed because I should be happy. I have a boyfriend, friends, even best friends, a decent family, and no money problems or anything. I mean nothing is really wrong with my life. The thing is my boyfriend cheated on me after four month of being together and I don't think I've gotten over it. We've been together for a year and something now. He's done little things like text messaging girls that he's had dreams about having sex with them, and stuff like that... The thing is I love him. I want get over this already, but I don't think I can. He's what makes me happiest, and I think the problem is that I need to learn how to be how happy I am now with him without him. I'm guess I'm scared that that isn't possible. My best friend Kristina isn't there for me anymore as far as my boyfriend. I can't talk to her about it and I can't talk to my boyfriend about how I feel. I would just make him sad or frusturate him and I definatly don't want to do that. I kind of tried talking to my family and what they said is that I shouldn't have to deal with that. I don't want to break up with him, but I think I need some time off. I don't want to tell him that. Whenever I do something without my boyfriend he ends up having more fun than me and it makes me feel like I should've gone with him, and I start to feel bad. My family isn't all that great my dad's always angry and my little brother is weird... My big brother isn't always here because he goes to college in chicago and my mom is probably just as hurt as I am. I used to have two dogs, but they ran away. My best friends don't go to my high school and I don't see them much. I need some help on how to be happy again. I have a lot, but at the same time what I have is giving me something to be sad about I guess. Any ideas on how I can be happy again?
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You shouldn't have to deal with a boyfriend who you cannot trust, and should NEVER, and I really mean NEVER, be afriad to tell your partner how you feel.
If you are afriad to tell your partner your fears, concerns and feelings, you aren't in a relationship. You have become a slave to insecurities and thier emotions.
Don't be so quick to label yourself as 'depressed'. Depression, to an extent, is a natural and normal reaction when things are poopy and frankly hun, you've lost pets, friends, trouble with family and your boyfriend... things in your life ARE kinda poopy! It's okay to feel kinda poopy.
Your real problem here (besides the fact that you shouldn't be with this guy, but lets just ignore that for a mintute, you'll end it when you are ready too) is that you can't find happiness in yourself.
Start small. Declare one evening in a week YOUR evening. Go to a movie, or a play, or rent a movie and get some take that you love just for you. Read a favorite book while munching on double-fudge icecream. Take a long bubble bath. Get a manicure. For at least three hours, do only something that makes you feel really good. Each time your brain kicks in with thoughts about your boyfriend or stresses just tell yourself "No. Right now is about enjoying myself. When I'm done we can worry about that agian."
That is the first step. The second step is not to feel bad about it afterwards, and the last step is to do it agian. Maybe join a club, try out for something, do something by yourself for yourself.
The truth is, happiness isn't something you just get. It's something we all work for, fight for and expect for ourselves. Raise your expectations. Be willing to work for it. Only then if you can't find it, should you start thinking about depression and professional help.
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well, the first step of success is admitting you have a problem, which you already did.
but thats besides teh point, i think you should talk to ure boyfriend, you said you loved him am i right? so, if the feelings mutual he wouldnt be doing what he does. if you guys are in love then he would listen to you and stop what hes doing. tell him how all of this is affecting you and that you want him to stop. think about it, is he really worth all of what ure going through? i was in a relationship not too long ago like ures, but it was only going on until i talked to him about it. i though i loved him. i really thought i did, but then other things happened and i relized i was too young to be in love.
hope i helped, and g'luck<3
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to be happy i think you should give yourself time to heal happiness will come later dont focus on the relationship focus on yourself and happiness will come later dont pressure yourself to heal quickly everything including happiness will come high school adds pressure to you this i know being junior in high school myself i know how you feel i just got out of a bad relationship myself the healing and happiness will all come in due time just take the healing process one day at a time peace and love is what i wish you also may you have serenity
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