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is it okay to be very sexual after bieng sexualy abused?
I was sexualy abused two years ago by my older cusin! who i have rarely seen since! i havent told any one exccept a few of my friends! im okay now ! but ive noticed that im a completely diffrent person ! im very rebelious! and i find that im very sexual! so much that ive had more then 13 sexual experinces with diffrent people! and i like it! and im always seducing people my age and a little older like 19-20s im 16 turning 17 and somthing inside of me knows that its not right but i like it ! no one in my famly knows it! i used to be the most wholesome person u could have ever met. And i used to be scared to do all the things that im doing! but now im not any of those things and i know its wrong but like bieng this sexual and rebelious! but at the same time i wonder if what im doing is right !
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Why are you doing this?
Its because you need attention, more and more of it. Because if you "HAD" attention at "THAT" moment it wouldnt have happened, you wouldnt be living this nightmare, a thing that you never wanted to be...
Would you last your whole life like this? You are 17. So 10 more years of wild sex awaits you. After that? Thats when you need attention of the right kind. thats when sex will be more about love and less about it being wild. You have time with you. So this lonely, ex-ho who lives with a cat looks good on you after 15 years? Or is it a "woman" who lives with her family and 'have" a cat?
Think about it. Post here. We will talk more here.
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PS : I was at the receiving end of the same once. So i do know what you are going through.
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Right is a difficult question to answer. By most moral standards, its not right.
What I can tell you, without any hesitation, is that its not good for you.
I mean, being able to enjoy sex is great. Trust me, theres nothing wrong with being a sexual person. But self control is important.
I have had my times where I was fairly indiscriminate about sex. The one thing that I learned, was that sex is always better in a committed relationship. You get to know them. The sex takes on different meaning. I can tell you from experience that being with someone sexually and seeing love in their eyes...
There is nothing better to me. Nothing.
That takes time. It takes commitment. It takes not fucking up a relationship with sex before you fall for each other.
Stop having sex. Honest advice, buy yourself a vibe and a dildo. Make do with those and work on being in a decent relationship before you sleep with someone. I normally say if nothing else, the five date guideline. Hold off until then.
There is nothing wrong with what you are feeling. Nothing at all. But we all have emotions, and we all have sex drives. What defines our maturity is our ability to control our own urges until the time is right.
Theres another thing thats good about relationships by the way. Once you are in a comfy relationship, the sex is better, and theres generally more of it. My last girlfriend lived with me, and 2-4 times a day was normal.
Good luck, and if you want to talk drop me something in the inbox.
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