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i bought this dress over the summer and i've lost all of this weight to fit into my size 2 dress. it's the cutest dress ever. it's champagne color and baby pink with a big bow in the front. Of course, my mother doesn't like the dress, because her and I can never agree on something to wear. I'm 16 years old and I don't think I need her approval to wear this dress. it's the most descent dress in the world... it's not like slutty or anything. But, it was more than a dress for me. It's the first time that I'm going to come out of my shell since August. I've been very sad because a lot of people have done things to me, and i haven't been myself. But, I wanted to show myself to the world with this dress because it's who i am. It really represents my personality and it's really me. Yesturday, we went shopping for jewelry, and she ends up buying a whole new dress. I argued with her all of yesturday because I didn't like the jewelry she was picking for the original dress, so I really don't want to talk to her about this because it will instigate another argument and arguments with my mother get me very upset. i really want to try to avoid that. She event old me that when we got home, she didn't want me to tell her that I was wearing the other dress. The other dress was from the spring collection, but it looks kind of Christmassy because of the bow it has in the front. How can I tell her nicely? Because the dress she got me is really nice and everything, but it's not me. I don't want to go with smokey eyes and crazy hair. I want soft curls and light make-up. Why can't she just understand that and let me wear the dress that I want? Please help me..... and please just don't say "talk to her." I need to know what to tell her because she screams at every little thing I say because she's like int he middle of menopause... it's like EVERYTHING has to be her way, and this is MY formal. It's not hers. Please help me!!
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"Talk to her" Seems to be the only thing I can suggest you do. But, I can also help you do it.
Choose a time when she is alone and doesn't appear to be too busy. If she is, ask her to talk in a few minutes or when she's done whatever she's doing.
"Talk", don't whine, yell, or critisize what she did or the situation. Begin to tell her that you haven't been yourself lately, but now you're finally ready to break out, and that this dress means so much and that you're going to feel absolutely beautiful in it.
If she starts to get "annoying" or angry, don't get annoying and angry back, because this will start an argument. There is NO WAY you can get through this by arguing. Ask her gently why she doesn't want you wearing this other dress. Make the effort to understand her point of view and reassure her. Tell her that you want to FEEL beautiful, and the dress she's chosen for you doesn't have that kind of value to you.
If you think she's starting to understand, ask her if you can wear your dress.
I hope all goes smoothly for you and for your formal.
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ok i think i understand what your saying ; what i think you should tell your mother is that you want to be your own person and your growing up and that she cant keep dressing you because you have your own personality and your own style now that your growing up and you dont want to be dissapointed and miserable at formal like you were before ; ask her if thats how she wants you to fail because i dont think its fair that she chooses what you were ; just tell her how you truly feel ; hopefully i helped you a little ; good luckk && stay happy lOl =]
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