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advice please
***<b>i am the same person that wrote the one below, sorry i can't figure out how to delete that one but i meant that he WOULD be wearing a condom, not wouldn't. sorry!****
me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 6 months now. we have a VERY strong relationship emotionally and physically. even though it's only been 6 months we both feel that we want to spend the rest of our lives together and we are the only ones for each other. he just turned 19 and i'm 17. we have done everything except for sex. he has told me many times that we will wait as long as i want to have sex. it could be a year it could be longer, when ever i am ready. when ever we do "stuff" i feel like i want to have sex with him. i dont know if its just because of the mind set or because i really want to. ive been thinking about it a lot lately but im not sure if i am ready. its not because i don't want to, i'm just scared of something happening. he <u>would</u> deffinitley wear a condom, but i am not on birth control and i don't plan on going on it. i'm scared of the risk of being pregnant. that is my biggest fear in having sex with him. it probably always will be until i'm 18 and i can go on birth control with out my parents knowing. i don't know what should i do, please give me advice
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Wanting to have sex while you two are going at it and are all hot and bothered is normal, and it doesn't mean you are actually ready to have sex.
You aren't ready. You know you aren't.
People are ready for sex when they can responsibly take all the nessicary percausions and live with the risk that sex comes with.
The risk of preganncy scares you too much for sex to be enjoyable(and it should, you are only 17, it's too big of a risk for you to take) and you aren't willing/able to speak to get birth control.
So you aren't just aren't there yet. That's okay. Just be honest about it, with him and with yourself.
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