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what to do
im 19/m
my names stephen. the thing is i know what i want to do i just want advice on it anyways. Brianna a girl ive known for a year was dating a good friend of mine, Aram, for 7 months. they broke up in july and at that point Brianna and i were hanging out a lot and she grew on me and i did on her. She first told me that she had feelings for me but i told her that i had feelings for this other girl Angela, which i did at the time but i was spending more time with Brianna. Then i tell her the same. Well from mid august to now so much has happened. I held back and waited to see if i really wanted to be with Angela or Brianna and i end up choosing brianna.
So i tell Brianna but when i did she was pretty serious about not wanting to talk to me again cuz she told me that she doesnt wanna ruin my life. All the friends she had deserted her. and she thinks that she ruined the friendship with Aram. Well it was my fault that i didn't say anything but he never said anything to me and i rarely saw him because of a new job i got. I worked with him for a year at a theatre and quit that job.
Well Brianna tells Aram that she wants to be back with him and i figure its because ive been holdin out on her. And she tells him all these things like she loves him, and she loves the way he makes her want him, that she just wants me as a friend, but she tells me that she doesn't want to jump in a realationship, she said this from the start, and that she does want to spend more time with me. So i have to find this out by talking to Aram. and she didnt tell me that she still had feelings for him. and that pissed me off. Now with Aram it always going to be different between us as friends. Aram was hurt and did betray him in a way but he should have talked to me too because he was barley on my mind.
Not to long ago after everything she tells me, well after drinking a little, that she likes me because im there for her and that shes over aram and that he would never understand her. Shes been through a lot in her lifetime and she really has no one to help her. i want to be there as a friend but i mean i still have feelings and i think thats might grow on me even more.
i still have feelings for her but not as strong and im keeping my guard up and not going to put myself up for something that may be false. i need to know that she likes me before anything. i need to figure out how she feels and before doing anything again i need to talk to Aram.
He tells me that he wants to get over her because he felt like dragging her along the whole time. But i know pretty much that he still has feelings. he still tries to flirt with her and everything.
so im figuring that if i should let things go and see how it turns out between them. and if she needs me as a friend then ill be there only for that reason. just someone to talk to.
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By saying one thing to you, and another to Aram, it seems that what Brianna wants is someone to be there for her. She told you the same thing she told to Aram: that she has feelings for you (and him, depending on who she's talking to). It looks like she's in a sensitive situation...she may have feelings for both of you, but doesn't know how to go about it. It sounds like a love triangle, and it's not always a good idea to get tangled up in these things. It's probably the best idea to do what you were planning on doing from the start- to leave the situation alone and see how things work out. I don't think it's a good idea to go out with her, since she and your friend broke up not too long ago.. plus, she's pretty sensitive if she isn't able to let go of Aram, and is giving mixed messages. So it's better to relax and see how things go.
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