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so i've been talking to a guy for about 2-3 months now. We've hung out a COUPLE of times it was fun we flirted,huggged,almost kissed & all that junk. A couple days ago i asked him if we're ever gonna go out & he said he doesnt know. I told him if theres nothing gonna happen between us we might a well stop talking becasue im getting too attached & i dont want to get hurt. I dont know which way he took it becasue before he would I.M me or comment me saying hey baby,boo & cue stuff that make me smile.ow its all "whats up" like we're friend or something? i dont know whats going on. I dont know what to do I've been thinking of asking him what he thinks of us right now & tell him how i feel but im confused as hell.
PLEASE help if you can relate & give me adivice on what to do & how to approach him.
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okay i totally get whats going on here, cause such situation practically happened to me once.
Here is the thing, when you asked him , whats gonna happen between us and what exactly is going on and so, umm... instead of him answering you directly,he in some kind of indirect way is making a statement and answering your question ,trying to tell you that he can't give you more than friendship, more than being friends, and his way of telling you that, is by showing it not telling it. so he changed his attitude and the way he talks to you and stuff, and maybe thats also a way so as not to hurt you, you know, he doesn't want to tell you so directly face to face, so he wouldn't hurt you.
And here is what you should do, since its obvious that he doesn't want more than that, more than friendship, then don't run after him, or try to force yourself on him, or approach him in anyway, talk normally, like as if you really are friends and nothing more, dont also get too close, let it be small talks and so, and stop questioning him about it. Don't waste your time with someone whose practically making it clear that he doesn't want anything more than friendship. So you wouldn't end up hurting yourself by yourself, and he just winning the game here.
But if you stick as friends, ask about each other, regular small talks, then thats an advantage for you for still having him, and an advantage for him for getting what he wants. Thats it, and then you move on, and you meet some other guy who would answer your question directly and want more than just friendship.
And if you do what I say, and after some time, he starts going back to flirting and all this shit, then he's probably been considering or thinking about it, and now he wants you and wants more than being friends.
See all you should do, is to just go with the flow, however he treats you, you treat him the same way in return, he wants to be friends, then okay whatever, but just don't wait around for someone or run after someone or stop your whole entire life hoping that this person would turn back on his heels and say i want you.
you get my point?
Thats it, if you need any further advice ,please be free to contact me.
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