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Too many guys
Let me make 4 things clear:
1. I'm 15/f (10th grade, sophomore)
2. I'm not trying to sound arrogant or a whore.
3. I'm a really friendly and nice person. I'm nice to those whom I hate and I'm a big hugger, which, along with my friendliness, some people take as a sign of me liking them unfortunately.
4. I'm pretty much dealing with depression and not being accepted by my family right now. Have been since 4th grade. So I'm pretty much unable to have a boyfriend without treating him like shit.
Anyways, the problem that I have is that I have 7 boys liking me and I only like 2 of them back.
Boy 1 and I are really good friends. We both have the same best friends, who introduced us to each other. He's really friendly and nice and cheery all the time. But our families don't like each other =/ And we can't see each other much because 1. he goes to another school and 2. he might be moving soon. But I brought him to my homecoming and I basically didn't wanna be separated from him because I was really sad when he told me that he might be moving like 5 hours away. But anyways, he told me he likes me and he told my best friend that he wants to ask me out. And at the end of homecoming, he kissed me. Well, I feel much more comfortable with him being my friend and nothing more. He's in 11th grade by the way.
Boy 2 I've liked since last year and I still do. He and I flirted a lot in the beginning of the year and everyone was telling us to go out already but we never did. Well, I went through another stage of drawing away from people and I kind of thinned our friendship at that time. Well, recently Boy 2 has been trying to get my attention? He'd like randomly hug me/pick me up or try and get my attention in one way or another just to say hi or what's up when I'm talking with other people or just not paying much attention to him. And I'm like 5% away from being madly in love with him =P He's in 11th grade as well.
Boy 3 I've liked on and off (if that's possible) since the middle of last year? But people have told us something that relates to us flirting, including a teacher. But he only goes out with athletic girls so I don't even really know if he likes me. But he's really funny and smart and cute and just completely lovable. Oh and when I introduced Boy 1 to him (Boy 3), he had that facial expression that screamed out jealousy. And I can read faces very well, trust me. Umm, he's in my grade.
Boy 2 & 3 are the ones that I like...obviously
Boy 4 is in 11th and he and I are like pick on each other like siblings kind of friends? At homecoming, he randomly came up behind me and hugged me and tried to get cozy with me and I was like wtf? and jerked away. And I swear Boy 1 was like about to scream at Boy 4.
Boy 5, 6, & 7 are all in my grade. Boy 5 I know likes me but I never see him anyways so it doesn't quite matter. Boy 6 scares me, seeing that he stares at me every class and basically stalked me in 8th grade. Boy 7 is a really nice kid and all but I don't know. I don't want to go out with him or anything.
So, my questions are:
1. How would I tell Boy 1 that I rather be friends? Should I tell him now or when he asks me out because I can't avoid him forever.
2. Would it be wrong for me to be flirting with anyone? I'm like not tied down to Boy 1 as in we're not going out or anything, right?
3. Wanna share your "I rather be just friends" line[s] with me please?
4. I'm just confused as to what I'm suppose to do b/c no matter what I do, it can easily be mistaken for flirting (if I'm just myself)How can I establish the line between friendly and flirting?
Sorry it was so long.
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1. You need to tell Boy 1 that you only like his as a friend, as soon as possible. Don't wait until he asks you out. When you talk to him, be honest with him and tell him the truth. Let him know nicely and just tell him that you like him as only a friend and nothing more. If you wait longer, you can hurt his feelings and I know you wouldn't want that.
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2. It's not wrong to flirt with guys but you should tone it down. Some people flirt natrually and don't realize that they're doing it but since you know they like you, try acting more as friends and not flirt so much.
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3. We shouldn't be giving you "lines" on what to say and how to say it. You need to tell the boys honestly and it has to come from you. Yeah it's hard because you don't want to feel like a bitch and hurt their feelings, but let them know. Explain to them that you just want to be friends. They're understand and if not, it's not your fault.
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4. So, like I said before, flirting comes natrually. It's normal and it's not your fault that those guys take it the wrong way. You could just tell them that they're good friends and just mention things like that. You could also mention that you're a big flirt so they don't take it the wrong way. It's hard not to flirt ya know.. so don't worry about it too much. I'm sure you know the difference between flirtng and being friendly so think about it when someone is your friend and how you talk to them.
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Hopefully everything works out between you and one of the guys you like! Be honest with the boys you don't see more than friends.
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