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I am ashamed and embarrased of my past
me and my boyfriend are seriously in love. Not just teen love, but love love. Anyway we talk a lot but nver about me and that's the way i like it because there are things in my past i don't want him to know about. now all of the sudden he is curious. he wants to know about my past and childhood. The truth is i was sexually abuse by my stepfather as a child, and my mother - who my boyfriend thinks lives in New york with her husband - is in jail because of drugs. I am ashamed and embarrased of my past. What should i say if he ask again??
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tell
him the truth
he will understand
he will find out later
just tell him
he wont hate you
or break up with you
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You don't sound as if you are ready yet. Maybe if he opens up about himself, his past, and childhood first you can feel more at ease talking about yours. Tell him that you are not comfortable yet. If you two are in love he will understand. You may be ashamed and embarrassed, but he loves you and in a loving relationship you can choose whether to tell him or not on your own terms on your own time. If your past difficulty made you who you are and he loves you he will think you are a stronger person for having gone through that and for telling him as well. Do not be ashamed or embarrassed. You did nothing wrong. Talking about it may be therapeutic and he can help you heal. Also, this new closeness may bring you guys to new heights in your relationship on a deeper level.
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When your ready, tell him the truth but the farther you go with this the longer you'll feel guilty about it. Just know that you can trust him. I promise he wont have different feelings for you after you tell him. (:
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