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cheating?
How do you know if your boyfriend is cheating on you? See, my boyfriend has this MyYearBook thing, and I don't think he knows that I know about it, but I don't know. He's friends with all these girls..and he told me on his myspace all his girl friends are from school. Well, on his myyearbook he has girls from other states and there in bra's & panties, and it's so gross. I'm so scared he's cheating, but I know he'd never do that to me. But I don't like that website...and that he's friends with those girls..like the half naked girls you know. So what do you think I should do? Confront him about it?
sorry this was long, I don't know who else to ask.
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Truth be told, you really can't tell (or assume for that matter) if your bf is or isn't cheating on you unless you directly ask him and he gives you a direct response.
I hate to be a sexist stereotyper but: boys are all horny and perverted on one level or another. They, most anyways, enjoy internet and the rated R's.
Myyb (Myyearbook) has a picture contests and two of them are "Best body parts" and "Hottest" or something like that. That is why it tends to attract a lot of "whores" on there. It's normal for a guy to add girls that are stripped down to their undergarments or more, but it can get suspicious if he didn't tell you he had a myyb in the first place, thus making it seem as if he was trying to hide the fact that all these girls on his friend list are indeed 89% naked for a suspicious reason. There should be a spot that says "Status" or something on his myyb page that he can put In a relationship or something like that. Does he have that? If it's blank, I don't know what to say. If it says single, than you may want to talk to him about it.
The best thing is tell him something like this:
I was going through myyb the other day and came across yours and your friend list with all those semi-nude girls is really bothering me. Care to explain?
*he explains*
So nothings going on b/w you and those girls?
*answer*
Hopefully, he'll say nothing is going on with those girls.
Well, I hope you're being frank because I trust you wouldn't do anything to hurt me
*pulling a guilt trip on him if he is doing something behind your back or if he intends to do something*
IF he spazzes or flips out about you "spying" on him or something, ask him why he is if he hasn't got anything to hide.
Basically, holding suspicious or doubts about the other person in a relationship can be harmful. The best thing is to just confront him as soon as possible so that YOU don't seem like you don't trust him/spying on him.
Good luck!
And you can always ask me anything =)
If you want more help, my e-mail is xchoke_on_dead_hopex@yahoo.com
Emily
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Trust me darling, I know EXACTLY how you feel. My boyfriend does stuff like that too, but here's the thing: he's with you, not them. I was in this mess not too long ago, actually I'm still trying to get over it to be honest. My boyfriend left a couple comments on a girl's picture telling her how beautiful she was. She was from another state and they had never met in person, but it seriously broke my heart. But I, like you, know that he would never purposely hurt me, just like you know your boyfriend would never purposely hurt you.
It ate me up inside for days, but then I realized something. Guys like our boyfriends are always going to look at pictures of other girls online, be friends with girls that might be prettier, and hurt our feelings in ways that they will never understand. But in the end, you have to trust your boyfriend and be thankful that it's YOU he goes home with every night; not those other girls.
I think it would be a great idea to talk with him about the MyYearBook. He probably didn't even realize he was doing anything wrong. Don't yell at him or anything, just calmly confront him about it. Say, "I'm sure it's no big deal, but I saw those pictures of those girls you're friends with. It made me a little jealous/hurt." Give him a chance to explain and I'm sure things will work out just fine.
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