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MAKING A CHOICE!!!
I have been with my current girlfriend for almost 2 years and im 100% sure she's "The One". We have had plans to move in together when she finishes High School soon. We want to live in Texas because we both think it would be the best place for "US". Then in the last few months she has started to want "US" to live in Pennsylvania in an aprtment around her mom for 2 years then move to Texas. She's starting to go threw that point where every parent and child starts to relize they arent children anymore. She think's that waiting 2 more years will make it less hard to leave her mom. I have explained to her that it wont no matter how long she waits it's still gonna be hard for anyones parent no matter how long you wait. I think the best thing to do would be get it over with now itstead and be over it 2 years from now instead of wasting time to find out it wont be easier in 2 years. So in simple words she wants to live in Texas no matter what but she wants to live in Pennsylvania for 2 years. We have made a budget together to workout the figures and the budget shows we wont be able to live 2 years in Pennsylvania then move to Texas. So what should i do?!?!?
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The budget is quite likely to put both of you through debt, no matter what you do, because you are still young and will have to pay for many things for the first time without being able to get the same salary you would be able to get once you are older. The most important thing now is to figure out what will make the both of you happy and if that happens to put you through debt, figure out a way to pay it off later (ei, are you planning to go through college and inevitably go through debt and then get a really good job because of it later? What kind of an income will you have later on?). Another thing is that your girlfriend seems to be making a lot of the decisions. Have you thought about where you would like to live?
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okay, here's a little tip that i've picked up over the years. i have a lot of friends that have graduated from high school and gone to college. the thing is... if you don't get out of the vicinity soon and go to a place far away, you will come back. that's just how it works, and i'm not sure why. i can't go to a mexican restaurant here without seeing people that graduated 3 years ago working there. and all those people end up going back home to their parents' houses. i think you're right in wanting to get away fast. because if you don't leave right then, then what's the point of leaving in the first place? her mom's going to have a tough time with her leaving no matter when she does it. that's just how moms are. i'm guessing you live in pennsylvania right now... why can't she just enjoy living there now and then move to texas when she gets out of high school? by the way, have you all ever been to texas? i live there (or here, however you want to put it). it's a culture shock from pennsylvania, but the people are a lot nicer i think. leave one in my inbox if you want to know anything about tx :)
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