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Confusing Sexuality
16 year old female :)
Yesterday I was all "I'm going to be the lily-white type of girl who's a great christian, believes in TRUE LOVE and doesn't have sex or anything. I won't even kiss, say "i love you", hold hands..or do anything until I've known a guy for a LONG guy and am convinced he's the right one for me."
and then today I'm all "I wanna feel sexy, I wanna grab a guy and make out with him in the back of the movies" and I keep having sexual fantasies.
I know its normal, but I don't want to be this way..
The thing is - I've only ever had ONE sexual experience. I always said I'd save my first kiss for my future husband, and since I had liked this guy for 4 years I had convinced myself we were meant to be. He took my first kiss, and so much more. He used me completely, never cared, and made me give him so much that I oculd have saved for someone else.
So I'm not judging those of you who do have lots of sexual experiences, I'm just saying.. I get hurt really easily, and I don't want to give any more of myself. But I can't help but fantasize, and when I fantasize, like today, I flirt... which results in sexual things with boys. I DON'T WANT THIS.
Somone told me to watch tons of disney movies where love is innocent..so I'll want that..and wont comprise it, you know?!?!
Do you have any other advice like that?!
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Watching old Disney movies is a TERRIBLE idea. Do you have any idea how many sexual, subliminal messages they have? "The Little Mermaid" for example, one of the giant gold buildings is shaped like a giant, golden, erect penis. You may not know it, but it could actually CREATE these impulses.
The best thing you can do is realize when you're starting to feel that way, and then be extra careful not to lead anyone on. If you do slip up and it starts to go too far, pay attention and tell them no. The only way to stop this is with self control.
Good luck.
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