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My best friend
My best friend is 17 and her boyfriend is 15. They have been going out for a year and a half. She gets hurt a lot by him. Nothing physical or verbal. He always chooses his friends over her. They don't go to the same school either. She always pays for everything and he's the one who has a job. For her birthday, he told her that he would give her this amazing gift & forgot her birthday. Promised to get her something soon and it took about 2 months because she kept mentioning it. It wasn't so much about receiving a gift, but how he says things.. and doesn't mean it or forgets it. His best friends bad mouthed her & he didn't believe her or help. It seems like he only comes by to have sex. His friends are a bad influence. He does whatever his friends tell him to do, like eat garbage. He's also a flake. He avoids talk about the future especially about college and jobs, he refuses to go and he thinks everything will be fine. There's just so much more going on. Yesterday, she was planning to break up with him... she told him that.. And he said nothing at all. When she was talking to him, his best friend called and he just left her there while she was still explaining things! They are still together. She's been with him for so long, that it's rather hard to let go.. I told her those few happy moments together aren't worth it while you are unhappy for the rest. What can I do or say? I've said a lot.. but i guess i don't have the right words? i really want to be there for her. But I'm afraid I'll become too close of a best friend that she would have a crush on me again!
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This is a tough one. Ask your friend if she sees this boy in her future. If the answer if no, then ask why she's with him. This is obviously an unhealthy relationship, she needs to end it. Maybe you should talk to the boyfriend. Ask him what his deal is, if he's not serious about her, than she shouldn't be giving him the time of day. There are so many great guys out there, she shouldn't be wasting her time with this loser. Maybe, you could introduce her to some new boys or some new people. No boy is worth so much drama and if he truly cared about her, he wouldn't be doing all this to her. I hope I helped somewhat and I hope everything works out for your fried. GOod luck!
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