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Boyfriend for first time?
I'm seventeen, a girl, a senior in high school. The easiest way to describe me is socially deficient... I have only a few friends (but close, long-time friends, nonetheless), never-been-kissed, and never had a boyfriend. I feel ridiculous; everyone else around me is dating and stuff, but not me. I just feel nervous/awkward around people I don't know really well, ESPECIALLY boys. And I tend to be a terrible conversationalist.
Anyway, there's one guy I like, and I think he's interested in me, but I'm not sure what to do about it, what to say if he DOES ask me out, or what I would do if we actually do start going out. I know this probably sounds stupid, but I don't know anything about boyfriend-girlfriend relationships... I've just been so focused on schoolwork and getting my 4.0 that I never made time for being social.
Anyway, I have a ton of questions (and I'm so sorry for loading them all on you guys)...
How much time should be spent with a boyfriend? Do I have to walk with him to classes, hang out after school, hang out during all my free time? This is my biggest question, and my biggest concern.
I'm slightly worried about the guy I like's reputation... I asked my sister, who asked her best friend, who says that he apparently likes to go after girls who are ugly and easy. But he seems so nice and is such a funny guy, I can't really believe that. What to do?
Any conversation ideas? I'm never sure what to talk about with him. We have a couple classes together, so usually we just talk about that, but it's boring as heck.
Last, how can I learn to relax? I feel like I'm never able to be myself around guys, I always shell up and become all polite and quiet. That's not how I am at all, at least not with my friends and family.
Thanks so much for all your patience, and thanks in advance for any advice!
-Kate
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well i'll do the best I can from past experiences:
-don't spend too much time with him. a lot of people feel the need to spend every waking moment together but it doesn't make their relationship any better. agree to give each other free time with your friends and hang out after school on certain days.
-if you wanna see what he's really after, say yes on a trial basis kinda of thing. [dont't tell him that obviously] but just kinda test him a little.. and don't move too fast.
-no conversation ideas... if he likes you, he'll talk to you so don't worry too much about it.
-relax... don't think about impressing him. he should like you for who you are.
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