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drama.
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okay, well i have a boyfriend and we've been going out for about 4 months. a few weeks before, i DiD like this other guy.. but then i liked my boyfriend more... and because i had confused feelings. only a few people knew.... but then later on, he came over (not my boyfriend) and he left early because we were bored & we were watching tv, plus becuase he had to go to a wedding. after his sister picked him back up, she asked him what'd we do. he said "nothing." and she was like "common, you can tell me." and he said "nothing, just CUDDLiNG." and she said "ohhh, doesn't she have a boyfriend already?" and then he said "yeah." -_____- anyways, that night his brother & sister was talking about me, calling me a slut & a hoe. then a few weeks later, my sister said she wanted to talk to me about something, obviously it was about the guy thing. sooo, she said that he heard it from her bestest friend, since his older sister told my sister's bestfriend. and she confronted my sister about it. she said "you should tell your sister to chill about what she's doing, cause she's giving herself a bad name." and then my sister said "what are you talking about?" and then, she told her what happened. apparently... my ex, jimmy, was in the car while she was telling my sister. and jimmy is close with this guy gary (ex friend), and he's going out with jenny (ex friend), and jenny is close with susan (ex friend & ENEMY), and susan and my boyfriend are pretty close.. but not SOOOO close. and if susan finds out.. yannoe what she's gonna do. -_____-" and the thing is... me & the other guy already stopped talking, i mean like, he'd tried to say "i love you" to me, but i wouldn't say it back. he'd try to flirt... i wouldn't flirt back. either way, it won't stop it from spreading. and now my sister is a bit embarressed to hear this from her bestfriend about me. and she wouldn't really talk to me after she told me and stuff. i really don't know what to do, i don't want it to get to my boyfriend, because me & the other guy stopped talking, and i chose my boyfriend over the other guy. cause i actually like my boyfriend alot. T.T i just want to stop it. help me please?!
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"I chose my boyfriend over the other guy"
After you had sex with him? Interesting how you did that, but it really doesn't matter who you chose, you were supposed to have ONLY chose your boyfriend while you were dating him.
You told someone, and now this will spread. It's what happens when you can't keep your mouth shut. If your boyfriend finds out, surely he'll break up with you. Rightfully so, I wouldn't want to date someone that boned some other guy.
If you REALLY liked your boyfriend a lot, you wouldn't be in this predicament.
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Hi.
I hate when people do this kind of crap but I think it's also the reason you should be careful about who your cuddling up to and such behind your bf's back - people will always make a big deal out of a small thing.
I think the best thing to do is be honest and tell your boyfriend everything and explain things from your side. He will hopefully understand and if he doesn't just give him time and he will soon come around. I respect anyone who can come forward and tell the truth. I appreciate even more hearing something like this from my own girlfriend and not other people becuase the impression it gives is that you (or my girlfriend I should say) was trying to hide it from me. At that point even if things were innocent and 'nothing happened' it makes the person think if it was so innocent why lie or not say anything about it?
There was one thing I never really understook, why cuddle up with this guy if you don't like him? Or was it that you sort of did like him at the time but afterwards you had decided that you don't? Or was he just lying about the whole cuddling up thing? Either way, just tell your boyfriend the truth and it should hopefully all work out. As for everyone else whos chatting all this crap about you - they need to look at themselves before they start judging you because I'm willing to bet none of them are as innocent as they make themselves out to be.
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You should tell your boyfriend everything. He should understand & trust you. After all, you are his girlfriend. He should trust you and not all those other people. If he doesn't understand, give it some time. He'll come around.
Hoped I help. & Best of luck to you!
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