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crush on married woman
I have a huge crush on a woman that i work with we are both married but mine is on the rocks and i am not sure i want to try fixing it anymore.she is very friendly,flirty with me every time i see her i've felt this way for a couple of years but have not acted on it in any way.i have tried keeping distance from her but my feelings still haven't changed.should i tell her my feelings?My problems with my wife are mostly money related she won't quit spending beyond our means,I have tried getting help but she won't cooperate.last year I had to borrow a lot of money from her dad to pay off creditors i didn't even know i owed because she got credit cards in my name without my consent and wouldn't pay them back and they weregoing to garnish my wages which is how i found out about it.[very embarassing]now she has taken checkbook and messed it up by not keeping track of written checks has debit card to my account i didn't know about.until i hadto talk to bank to see what problem was with mortgage payment then after talking to her dad i found out she hasn't made any payments to him as agreed to either.i am just at a loss as to what to do about it all.any responses would be greatly apprieciated
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First off the crush. Don't act on it or say anything. She is probably just a flirty person.
Either way it will cause problems at work. You
don't need any more problems right now, sounds
like you are stressed to the limit as it is.
Your relationship with your wife needs major
repair. There may be trust issues here you
won't easily get over. She needs to seek
counseling for her spending habits.
Counseling or not you need to take away
any credit, debit cards and the checkbook.
You could even take her name off the accounts
if you really want to get drastic about it.
(It would keep her from withdrawing any money too.)Inform the bank she is NOT to get anymore
with your name attached to them in any way.
It will be a big pain in the butt because you
will have to pay the bills yourself, but you
can't be put into debt anymore. You will have
to do the grocery shopping together, or give
her just enough cash to pay for them.
If she has a job, then she needs to be paying
her dad back what you had to borrow, as well
as getting money orders to help pay the bills.
make her give you receipts.
Theres a good start. Weather you decide your marriage is worth the trouble or not
you don't need to add stress to your life right
now. The crush may be a result of your marriage
problems or it may not. But starting up with
a married person and a fellow employee is really
asking for trouble.
Good luck. :)
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